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Grandad terminal liver cancer & receing eol palliative care

Rachya95
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Hello! 
 

I guess I was very naive to think cancer wouldn't hit so close to home.. my grandad was diagnosed with terminal liver cancer.. I do believe it's secondary & there's nothing they can do. 
 

In a way I feel relieved that it's a diagnosis but scared like hell because he's going to leave us sooner. 
 

he's 89 years old and just gone so frail. It breaks my heart, He waits for me and my sister to drive home from work everyday in his little porch. He's also the last grandparent I have alive. All my others have passed on so I'm also sad.. once he goes I won't have any grandparents to dote on me :( I appreciate this sounds really selfish but I know he has to leave us but even knowing that doesn't help. 
 

im trying to make as many memories as I can but it's so tough when out the blue my heart feels like it's going to shatter. There are days I just feel so low and upset I don't know what to do other than cry. If anyone has any tips on how to support yourself during this time I'd appreciate it... 

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    Hi Rachya95,

    I know this post is about a month ago now but I cannot even begin to imagine what you were and are still going through. How is your grandad doing now? 
     

    I want you to know that you are in noway being selfish. It's very easy for people to say that in the case of elderly people that they are old and it's somehow "okay" for them to die but that doesn't make it any easier or less painful when it comes to the closest people in our lives. I think people like you who have a close bond with their grandparents will understand exactly what I mean when I say that the biggest fear I have is losing my grandmother who is also the only grandparent I have left. I always pray she has many more years with us. I can understand exactly what you may be feeling but please know that just because your grandfather may be elderly does not invalidate your feelings or grief or make you selfish in anyway. 
     

    Grandparents are so precious and must be treasured which I am sure you do. Will be thinking of you and your grandad. Wishing you all the strength to get through this. If you need to talk, I'm here. 

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    Hi Rachya95,

    I know this post is about a month ago now but I cannot even begin to imagine what you were and are still going through. How is your grandad doing now? 
     

    I want you to know that you are in noway being selfish. It's very easy for people to say that in the case of elderly people that they are old and it's somehow "okay" for them to die but that doesn't make it any easier or less painful when it comes to the closest people in our lives. I think people like you who have a close bond with their grandparents will understand exactly what I mean when I say that the biggest fear I have is losing my grandmother who is also the only grandparent I have left. I always pray she has many more years with us. I can understand exactly what you may be feeling but please know that just because your grandfather may be elderly does not invalidate your feelings or grief or make you selfish in anyway. 
     

    Grandparents are so precious and must be treasured which I am sure you do. Will be thinking of you and your grandad. Wishing you all the strength to get through this. If you need to talk, I'm here. 

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