Grandad terminal liver cancer & receing eol palliative care

Hello! 
 

I guess I was very naive to think cancer wouldn't hit so close to home.. my grandad was diagnosed with terminal liver cancer.. I do believe it's secondary & there's nothing they can do. 
 

In a way I feel relieved that it's a diagnosis but scared like hell because he's going to leave us sooner. 
 

he's 89 years old and just gone so frail. It breaks my heart, He waits for me and my sister to drive home from work everyday in his little porch. He's also the last grandparent I have alive. All my others have passed on so I'm also sad.. once he goes I won't have any grandparents to dote on me :( I appreciate this sounds really selfish but I know he has to leave us but even knowing that doesn't help. 
 

im trying to make as many memories as I can but it's so tough when out the blue my heart feels like it's going to shatter. There are days I just feel so low and upset I don't know what to do other than cry. If anyone has any tips on how to support yourself during this time I'd appreciate it... 

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  • Hi Rachya95,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm very sorry to hear of the situation with your grandad - I can imagine this must be incredibly difficult.

    Making as many memories as you can sounds like a good approach. I'm sure you already have a lot of positive times too to look back on. It's never easy in these situations, but do what you can to look after yourself and make the most of the time with your grandad. Keep talking to him and say anything you want to say, and I'm sure he knows how much you're there for him and the love that's there.

    In terms of yourself, it helps to speak to others - friends or family around you for example - as well as to write things down. This forum can be a safe space for you to write things down and to speak to others who understand.

    Take things a day at a time and also try to focus on things you enjoy among everything else going on.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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  • Hi Rachya95,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm very sorry to hear of the situation with your grandad - I can imagine this must be incredibly difficult.

    Making as many memories as you can sounds like a good approach. I'm sure you already have a lot of positive times too to look back on. It's never easy in these situations, but do what you can to look after yourself and make the most of the time with your grandad. Keep talking to him and say anything you want to say, and I'm sure he knows how much you're there for him and the love that's there.

    In terms of yourself, it helps to speak to others - friends or family around you for example - as well as to write things down. This forum can be a safe space for you to write things down and to speak to others who understand.

    Take things a day at a time and also try to focus on things you enjoy among everything else going on.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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