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Mum gone in 2 months!

Jturnie
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So I'm going to bullet point to get things across.

-31st January 2021 mum age 52 is absolutely fine no health complaints

-1st Feb 2021 dad finds lump on mum's thigh

- Mum sees docs advised if doesn't hurt don't worry

- 2nd wk it starts to hurt she calls back up , ultrasound booked

- 3rd week called into lymph node specialist advises not cancer or sarcoma

- 4th week advised secondary cancer everywhere

- 5th week advised secondary brain cancer, by this time she had been in hospital twice and wasn't eating, sleeping on a syringe driver for pain & hallucinating.

-6th week hospital again after 1round of chemo

- advised radiotherapy due to brain cancer telling body not to eat or drink

-7th week hardly awake always in pain not drinking hardly, not going to the loo at all for 4 weeks due to not eating

- 8th week in hospital again advised kidney and liver failing too how? Why? Due to all the meds?

- 3 days into 9th week still in hospital and dies at 53 which she also spent her last birthday in hospital. 19th March 2021

How can you go from being perfectly healthy to dead in 2 months?

Did someone cause it?

Or all of the meds?

Is it because we live next to landfill?

Is it because it was confirmed by docs and it's mind convincing body it is ill?

Or is this possible to not know you're ill and then just like that you are gone?

Any input or advice would be appreciated

So confused by it all

 

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  • Hello Jturnie

    I'm so very sorry to hear about your Mum's recent death. It's obviously been an incredibly difficult few months for you all and it's understandable that you have questions about her diagnosis, treatment and what, if anything, may possibly have contributed to her passing. 

    In the first instance, I'd suggest contacting your Mum's GP surgery and asking what information they may be able to give you. Alternatively, you could speak with your local hospital's PALS department who may be able to liaise to get some information and possible answers for you. 

    Unfortunately, you may never get all the answers that you want but it can certainly help to talk to someone about how you're feeling. You're most welcome to give our team of nurses a call to chat things through and get some advice. They're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm. It may also be that you might consider getting in touch with Cruse, a charity that offers bereavement support. 

    I hope this helps in some small way. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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  • Hello Jturnie

    I'm so very sorry to hear about your Mum's recent death. It's obviously been an incredibly difficult few months for you all and it's understandable that you have questions about her diagnosis, treatment and what, if anything, may possibly have contributed to her passing. 

    In the first instance, I'd suggest contacting your Mum's GP surgery and asking what information they may be able to give you. Alternatively, you could speak with your local hospital's PALS department who may be able to liaise to get some information and possible answers for you. 

    Unfortunately, you may never get all the answers that you want but it can certainly help to talk to someone about how you're feeling. You're most welcome to give our team of nurses a call to chat things through and get some advice. They're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm. It may also be that you might consider getting in touch with Cruse, a charity that offers bereavement support. 

    I hope this helps in some small way. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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