My mam is going to die from secondary cancer.

I have just been told my mam will die soon and has up too a year no more and could be less. I am 22 and she is 46 I have always lived with my mam she is the only parent I have I love her so much and can't imagine life without her and I am scared of how bad it will get soon the cancer is now in the brain and everywhere else in the body. I've been told to expect her to get worse has anyone been through this, I've never lost anyone before in my life so my mother i can't imagine it. Is there anything anyone would give me for advice on what to do with her before anything happens, what they wish they could say if they had a chance too, if grief gets better 

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  • Hi I am so sorry to hear of your sad news. I have now lost both of my parents to cancer. My mum in 2000 when I was 24 and now my dad 3 weeks ago. I am adult orphan and I am only 45. It's horrible and upsetting and all you can do is take each day. I would spend as much time with your mum as you can. Cherish the time you have left together. Just be there for her and keep her as comfortable as possible. Watching my dad wither away after having done the same with my mum was just horrendous but I comforted,  as much as I can be, by the fact that he was not in pain. The loss is overwhelming however. But you are not alone. We have all experienced grief and loss. Just be with your mum and talk about the good times you had. Have a few laughs if you can. I learnt to live with the loss of my mum and you will too ....it just takes time. 

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  • Hi I am so sorry to hear of your sad news. I have now lost both of my parents to cancer. My mum in 2000 when I was 24 and now my dad 3 weeks ago. I am adult orphan and I am only 45. It's horrible and upsetting and all you can do is take each day. I would spend as much time with your mum as you can. Cherish the time you have left together. Just be there for her and keep her as comfortable as possible. Watching my dad wither away after having done the same with my mum was just horrendous but I comforted,  as much as I can be, by the fact that he was not in pain. The loss is overwhelming however. But you are not alone. We have all experienced grief and loss. Just be with your mum and talk about the good times you had. Have a few laughs if you can. I learnt to live with the loss of my mum and you will too ....it just takes time. 

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