Hi so sorry ur going threw this... ur emotions must be all over the place... I totally understand as my dad has terminal  prostate cancer and his has spread fast he can't have chemotherapy radiotheraphy or op he got diagnosed in November last year unfortunately it spread fast lungs ribs bones back nd pelvis... nd we got the news it was terminal four days before Xmas....his care plan is in place to we.got told up to 2 years or shorter.... but he's going down hill fast hes in pain... yellow jauncie on his face... his face is drawn in etc... he's tired alot more I have to keep in my emotions from him its like I'm grieving for him already.... my advice to u is make memories if ur mam is up to it like cups of teas... if she likes to do jigsaws etc... what I got told about me dad just talk to him normal.. nd make memories u don't have to go threw this alone... I'm always around... even if u wanna message me privately... hopefully this helps u..easier said than done but be strong sending love to u nd ur mam xxxxx

Hi I am so sorry to hear of your sad news. I have now lost both of my parents to cancer. My mum in 2000 when I was 24 and now my dad 3 weeks ago. I am adult orphan and I am only 45. It's horrible and upsetting and all you can do is take each day. I would spend as much time with your mum as you can. Cherish the time you have left together. Just be there for her and keep her as comfortable as possible. Watching my dad wither away after having done the same with my mum was just horrendous but I comforted,  as much as I can be, by the fact that he was not in pain. The loss is overwhelming however. But you are not alone. We have all experienced grief and loss. Just be with your mum and talk about the good times you had. Have a few laughs if you can. I learnt to live with the loss of my mum and you will too ....it just takes time. 

Thankyou I feel like I am grieving already to even though it hasn't happened yet so I can't Imagine  when she is gone it is a awful thought seems like it isn't real. But I will try do what you said about trying to make things normal and nice, with being in the lockdown it has been difficult to make memories so I am trying to think of ideas, cancer is just awful xxx

Thats the hardest part of this we are restricted in what we can do... its so hard for us all in these situations.... and ask her what she wants too do even if its just sitting with a movie or looking at old photos or talking... big hugs xxxxx