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Hi my name is Tracy, my sister in law has 2-3months left to live, she was diagnosed with cervical cancer 3 years ago and after lots of different chemo she got told it was terminal. She has been dening to herself that she's dying but shes in a lot of pain and the nurse and doctor came today and asked her if she wanted to go to a hospice or stay home, she wants to stay home, then today for the first time she said to her mum, I'm dying aren't I,then sobbed. She is 47, I don't know what to say

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    Hello Tracy, 

    I just wanted to welcome you to our forum. I am so sorry to hear that your sister in law has been told that she only has 2-3 months left to live. I just wanted you to know that we are thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. I hope that your sister in law can spend quality time with her loved ones in her own home at the moment. It's hard to know what to say in a situation like this - I guess all you can do really is be there for her even if it has to be from a distance at the moment.  I am sure she will appreciate a little phone call as well as her mum for whom it must be so difficult at the moment.  

    We're all here for you on the forum Tracy if you need to talk or offload at any time in the next few months. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi, 

    One thing I really struggled with and still do now was how my dad (58) must have felt when he was told there was nothing more they could do. I just can't process or even begin to imagine their thoughts. 
    There are no words, try and fulfill her wishes to be at home, keep on top of her pain relief so she is as comfortable as possible and just be there for her. Don't be afraid to show your emotions, I never wanted to get upset in front of dad, but once I had we both cried and hugged together. Just be there. 

    Thinking of you x 

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