Hi

The is an insight to our lives in the last year with my best friend my father

So last Jan dad went for a biopsy on his bladder and he had passed some blood in his wee the biopsy went well he came home from hospital and we had to wait for results a couple of days later he could pass any stools so we call our gp our gp perscibed lacatives over the phone with out coming to c him this went on for 10 day 7 lots of laxative he perscibed over the phone then dad took a turn for the worse and we rushed him to hospital when he arrived there they were brilliant they done loads of test and informed us his bowls had burst omg so a lovely consaultand came to see us and explained he had 25 percent chance of pulling through this op so we agreed to do it as sepis was setting in so dad was whisked away to have op 9 hours later he had been put in intensive care on a life surport mechine with wires and tubes every where but he was still with us and way we were to to expect worst but we all had fingers crossed while he was in intensive care he had sepsis 2 cardiac arrests where he was dead for 13 mins kidney failure lungs full of water that had to be drained etc but the staff were Brill  he did come out of intensive care and put on a ward where I would go in every day and feed him etc we were also told at this stage that day had cancer of the bladder and it had gone through the mussal of the bladder but because of how week he was and what he had been through they would not be able to treet his cancer anyway after a long spell in hospital we brought him home and gaining mussal and strength every day he then got deep vain thromboious but the hospital again shortade we then had visits to the cancer Dr's and had scans we all decided dad may be strong enough to have raido as a palative care on the bladder so he had 3 strong doeses and it managed to clear his bladder but unfortunately it has spreed to his nymoth gland  the reason why I am not telling you this is that's its a year on and this week we have had a bad time as we have found out its gone to his brain such a brave guy I have spend a whole year with him pack up work the day we fist took him in I have emptyed and changed all his stommer bags etc for him I care now for my mother and father full time I also came back home to live to be able to do this there is no one else I could do this for but I should be ere doing this it our gp had of got there act togeather

Thank you for listening to a very proud daughter.