Oh Stevie,

I really understand what you mean about feeling cheated. We celebrated Mum's birthday in August and made all sorts of plans and booked tickets to shows all over the place. I took my children to the theatre on Thursday without Grandma as she couldn't manage it and I almost couldn't bear it. I have tried to follow the advice of telling her everything and trying to get her to talk about what is important to her now and that has helped. The people at Macmillan told me to get up each day and think 'what can I do to make mum more comfortable today?' So I have been taking round old photos to look at together, playing her favourite music and listening to the radio together. What I can't do at the moment is think past tomorrow and contemplate her not being here for future events. That knocks the wind out of me. I really hope you manage to enjoy some time with your mum and make some more lovely memories. Sending love xx