My dad has got terminal pancreatic cancer

My dad was diagnosed in February with incurable pancreatic cancer it has spread to his liver. I live near my mum & dad and my one sibling my brother lives 140 miles away. I have a really tough job 2 kids and a mega busy life and am finding it hard to support my mum. She is struggling to deal with my dads deteriorating psychological state. His symptoms are that he has got a very swollen abdomen which is uncomfortable. He is on Oxycodone slow release tablets 15mg twice a day. He is having palliative chemotherapy. My dad is 73 and my mum is 70. They have run their own business for 40 years and still work now. My husband has recently taken over the business so that is taking the strain off my parents. I am dreading what is to come, the deterioration. It's heartbreaking. What are your experiences of this dreadful disease? 

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  • Hi my mum 67 was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer in June 2015, with mets to liver. Prognosis was bleak - she could not have surgery and was placed on pallative chemo. After 9 rounds of pallative chemo mets had disappeared from her liver and the Tumor had shrunk by 80% - to date it has laid dormant - but to us dormancy is as good as remission. We take each day a step at a time. Some are positive and upbeat - some are the pits - but remember all you can do is try your best - I have told my story as we come on here looking for hope and inspiration X - forgot to add - I live near my mum - she still works fulltime and my brother lives far away - you will find strength x

  • hi, this is the most positive thing I have read reguarding pancreatic cancer, my dad was diagnosed December (2018) and starts his first round of chemo today, is your mothers still dormant ? Xx

  • Hi, 

    My mum passed away is October,It was very quick,she wasnt in pain and only went down hill a couple of days before she passed. She was at home and still talking to us an hour before she died.

     

    kind regards xx

  • I’m so very sorry for your loss, im so glad she wasn’t in any pain and pasted peacefully. My dads chemo has been postponed as he developed jaundice the morning he was due to start and had the stent put in the following day, we are waiting for the date to start chemo we just want time as much time as possible with him it’s so devastating sending lots of love your way and I’m sure your mom is with you in spirit xxxx

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  • I’m so very sorry for your loss, im so glad she wasn’t in any pain and pasted peacefully. My dads chemo has been postponed as he developed jaundice the morning he was due to start and had the stent put in the following day, we are waiting for the date to start chemo we just want time as much time as possible with him it’s so devastating sending lots of love your way and I’m sure your mom is with you in spirit xxxx

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