My dad has got terminal pancreatic cancer

My dad was diagnosed in February with incurable pancreatic cancer it has spread to his liver. I live near my mum & dad and my one sibling my brother lives 140 miles away. I have a really tough job 2 kids and a mega busy life and am finding it hard to support my mum. She is struggling to deal with my dads deteriorating psychological state. His symptoms are that he has got a very swollen abdomen which is uncomfortable. He is on Oxycodone slow release tablets 15mg twice a day. He is having palliative chemotherapy. My dad is 73 and my mum is 70. They have run their own business for 40 years and still work now. My husband has recently taken over the business so that is taking the strain off my parents. I am dreading what is to come, the deterioration. It's heartbreaking. What are your experiences of this dreadful disease? 

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  • Hi my mum 67 was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer in June 2015, with mets to liver. Prognosis was bleak - she could not have surgery and was placed on pallative chemo. After 9 rounds of pallative chemo mets had disappeared from her liver and the Tumor had shrunk by 80% - to date it has laid dormant - but to us dormancy is as good as remission. We take each day a step at a time. Some are positive and upbeat - some are the pits - but remember all you can do is try your best - I have told my story as we come on here looking for hope and inspiration X - forgot to add - I live near my mum - she still works fulltime and my brother lives far away - you will find strength x

  • Hi, please can you let me know what chemo your mum was on? X
  • HI , my mum never had chemo,shes just making the most of the time she has with no treatment. Its been 15 months now and still going strong.

     

    Regards

     

    angela

     

  • My dad has just been diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. It spread to dudenom and liver. He had an internal bleed and we nearly lost him but docs saved his life that’s before the diagnosis. Possibly starting chemo next week but naturally he’s worried about side effects as all the family are. He was such an outdoorsy out all the time person. Hes understandably depressed and finding it difficult. Life has been turned upside down in 3 weeks. Trying to stay positive and looking for peoples experiences. My brother and I visit often. I’m unsure what the prognosis is and not really sure I want to know he already survived the odds, so we know he’s strong

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  • My dad has just been diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. It spread to dudenom and liver. He had an internal bleed and we nearly lost him but docs saved his life that’s before the diagnosis. Possibly starting chemo next week but naturally he’s worried about side effects as all the family are. He was such an outdoorsy out all the time person. Hes understandably depressed and finding it difficult. Life has been turned upside down in 3 weeks. Trying to stay positive and looking for peoples experiences. My brother and I visit often. I’m unsure what the prognosis is and not really sure I want to know he already survived the odds, so we know he’s strong

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