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My mum is dying and I don't know what to do.

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I have never posted on a forum board before but I do not know where else to go. 

My mum has recently been diagnosed with spinal cancer and health has quickly deteriorated in the past 2 months. She has lost all mobility and has been given a couple of months to live. I am 21 and my sister is 12. I don't know what is going to happen if my mum passes. I'm trying to be strong for my mum, dad and sister but I feel as if my whole world is crashing down. I can't eat or sleep and all I seem to do is cry. My mum is so young and I'm heartbroken I won't get to spend my life with her. Every time I go out I am jealous of people that are out with their mums or people smiling because I'm not happy.

I really don't know what to do. I was hoping to hear from anyone that has been in a similar position and any advice any one could give me. 

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    Mmm..hey..

    I think writing a list everyday of things your grateful for is good idea, speak out to friends, not all friends going to get it, some won't even know what to say. 

    My mum also has cancer and us getting week. I spent last week and half crying. It tips your safety net out. As a reaction I reached out to sisters, I spoke to my mum, I asked her ihow I can help. 

    I've made time table so I can be more if service to her, I've had to step up. Trust your know what to do, but you got to be mountain, just be there with her. Being you is enough. 

    I've now started cooking more for her, cleaning, and finding out what she loves. It's stressful making these changes, but it's beautiful too. All can do is make it as enjoyable for them, help them find peace to transition with love. Be that loving safety ..but take it easy. Make sure you get your time. Go to meditation group. 

    And remember to connect to her soul, not her illness. 

    Big love

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    Mmm..hey..

    I think writing a list everyday of things your grateful for is good idea, speak out to friends, not all friends going to get it, some won't even know what to say. 

    My mum also has cancer and us getting week. I spent last week and half crying. It tips your safety net out. As a reaction I reached out to sisters, I spoke to my mum, I asked her ihow I can help. 

    I've made time table so I can be more if service to her, I've had to step up. Trust your know what to do, but you got to be mountain, just be there with her. Being you is enough. 

    I've now started cooking more for her, cleaning, and finding out what she loves. It's stressful making these changes, but it's beautiful too. All can do is make it as enjoyable for them, help them find peace to transition with love. Be that loving safety ..but take it easy. Make sure you get your time. Go to meditation group. 

    And remember to connect to her soul, not her illness. 

    Big love

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