Life just ain't fair. I'm so angry I could rip someone's head off. You look around and see bad people breeze through life and the good ones suffer. You've had so much to deal with and now this. You already know the routine; the trips yo hospital, the Dr jargon and the 'wise' sayings and sympathetic smiles. The only thing you can do is hold on, hold on for your mom. Your not selfish one bit and you bloody deserve to be happy. Talk to your friends or use this forum to talk to people. My best friend is terminal, she's my rock. I'm lost like you. All we can do is take one day at a time.breathe and take one day at a time. Leanne x

Hi there, life sure is s@&t at times. I'm sorry you lost your brother so young and now your dad is unwell too. It's hard to stay strong and its your turn to be a rock to your dad the best you can. You sound like a strong family. I lost my dad to the same as your dad and you seem to grieve at diagnosis as your mind runs away with you on how life is going to be. Humans amaze me how we manage to go on despite how cruel life is, we find some sort of inner strength and plod on. I was never prepared to loose my dad and at nearly 5 months in still struggle each day without him. Each day I still feel shocked and question what happened and how. I hope you get to spend some more precious moments with your dad. Take care x

Hello, 

I'm so sorry not only have you lost your dear brother your now facing going through the same with your beloved father.  Life indeed is very cruel. Sometimes it feels like one thing after another and we stop and ask ourselves how much more can I take! But you will find the strength,  if not for yourself then for your mum. Your dad needs you to be his rock now and help look after him like he has with you. I know that there will be many times that it feels unbearable and the grief will weigh you down but you'll find the strength to keep coping because you sound like a fighter. You aren't selfish at all, if anything what you're feeling sounds very normal and natural. Many people only deal with small day to day problems but going through so much at a young age is tough. 

I'm 26..I'll be turning 27 next month. My dad was diagnosed 11 months ago with incurable bowel cancer with secondaries to his lungs and liver. Since being diagnosed he's had an emergency operation...if left he would have died, a blood clot and a stroke 3 weeks ago. It's been really hard...it's having to adapt yourself to a new change in your life. From the moment a loved one is diagnosed it feels like you to start to immediately grieve. Grieve for the future! Every day is different and as hard as it can be it's about living in the 'now.' Life comes with all the what if's...Nothing is guaranteed apart from death, so it's about living for today. Create those precious memories, take those photos and enjoy this time together. Nobody wants to experience this pain it's like torture but you will get through this however long it takes. It's always easier said than done. Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever be happy again...it seems like my happiness is being stollen from me. But then I realise as each day passes it gets that little more bearable and even though it may seem like it's far away...you will be happy again and smile. 

If you fancy a chat feel free to message me x 

Hi, I just happened across your story whilst looking for answers to my own situation, I hope life finds you well. My brother's passed away last September 2022 whilst we were all reeling from my father getting a stage 4 lung cancer diagnosis. There's just me and my mum helping dad, and my mum's almost blind. Life just isn't fair, but it's life so I keep getting told. At some point someone will go through the same heartache we are feeling, I can't help but think we're the unluckiest people alive (I know we're not really ) and there's millions without food and shelter. It doesn't make it any easier thou.

To make matters worse my dads beloved dog passed away as well.

Can things get any worse.