Hello, 

I'm so sorry not only have you lost your dear brother your now facing going through the same with your beloved father.  Life indeed is very cruel. Sometimes it feels like one thing after another and we stop and ask ourselves how much more can I take! But you will find the strength,  if not for yourself then for your mum. Your dad needs you to be his rock now and help look after him like he has with you. I know that there will be many times that it feels unbearable and the grief will weigh you down but you'll find the strength to keep coping because you sound like a fighter. You aren't selfish at all, if anything what you're feeling sounds very normal and natural. Many people only deal with small day to day problems but going through so much at a young age is tough. 

I'm 26..I'll be turning 27 next month. My dad was diagnosed 11 months ago with incurable bowel cancer with secondaries to his lungs and liver. Since being diagnosed he's had an emergency operation...if left he would have died, a blood clot and a stroke 3 weeks ago. It's been really hard...it's having to adapt yourself to a new change in your life. From the moment a loved one is diagnosed it feels like you to start to immediately grieve. Grieve for the future! Every day is different and as hard as it can be it's about living in the 'now.' Life comes with all the what if's...Nothing is guaranteed apart from death, so it's about living for today. Create those precious memories, take those photos and enjoy this time together. Nobody wants to experience this pain it's like torture but you will get through this however long it takes. It's always easier said than done. Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever be happy again...it seems like my happiness is being stollen from me. But then I realise as each day passes it gets that little more bearable and even though it may seem like it's far away...you will be happy again and smile. 

If you fancy a chat feel free to message me x 

Hello, 

I'm so sorry not only have you lost your dear brother your now facing going through the same with your beloved father.  Life indeed is very cruel. Sometimes it feels like one thing after another and we stop and ask ourselves how much more can I take! But you will find the strength,  if not for yourself then for your mum. Your dad needs you to be his rock now and help look after him like he has with you. I know that there will be many times that it feels unbearable and the grief will weigh you down but you'll find the strength to keep coping because you sound like a fighter. You aren't selfish at all, if anything what you're feeling sounds very normal and natural. Many people only deal with small day to day problems but going through so much at a young age is tough. 

I'm 26..I'll be turning 27 next month. My dad was diagnosed 11 months ago with incurable bowel cancer with secondaries to his lungs and liver. Since being diagnosed he's had an emergency operation...if left he would have died, a blood clot and a stroke 3 weeks ago. It's been really hard...it's having to adapt yourself to a new change in your life. From the moment a loved one is diagnosed it feels like you to start to immediately grieve. Grieve for the future! Every day is different and as hard as it can be it's about living in the 'now.' Life comes with all the what if's...Nothing is guaranteed apart from death, so it's about living for today. Create those precious memories, take those photos and enjoy this time together. Nobody wants to experience this pain it's like torture but you will get through this however long it takes. It's always easier said than done. Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever be happy again...it seems like my happiness is being stollen from me. But then I realise as each day passes it gets that little more bearable and even though it may seem like it's far away...you will be happy again and smile. 

If you fancy a chat feel free to message me x