My husband passed away with cancer so quick within two weeks

My husband was admitted into A&E on the 21st September and stayed in until the 24th September as a outpatient. They done scans CT MRI PET and found out he had cancer in both of his lungs and his liver causing jaundice. He was fine when he left the hospital taking antibiotics. But soon after a couple days his appetite started decreasing causing a lot of weight lost then it stopped. I tried everything to keep him eating but no luck. He know his was dying and explained to me and my young daughters that he was not going to get better. So we had the talk which was hard to take in by anyone. We were prepared but didn't know when or how long. On the 4th October (Sunday) we had to call the ambulance has my husband breathing was getting bad. The ambulance took him into hospital and I followed after the next thing I knew he was taken up the general intensive care unit. They said was he very unwell and wouldn't survive the night but he did and i stayed with him all night until the early morning until I received a update from doctor.They said he was very unwell but it was looking good he was going the right on way and he was responding to treatment which give me little bit of hope. The next day when I visited by husband I was taken into a room by the specialist they explain that my husband had 0% survival and they were really concern about his heart. I stayed with him until the late afternoon then went home but i did explain if there was anything that changes call me straight away. Which they did at 10 pm on Monday and explain that my husband was deteriorating and to come quick. I rush to be by side but his heart had stop before I could get there. I didn't properly say goodbye to him and feel so guilty.He died on 5th October at 10.30 pm. I feel so numb and empty thinking his going to come through the front door anytime but know his not. I have been through so much these few weeks and I have had to do everything by myself. I have two lovely daughters and my mum and dad and my best friend that has support me through out this horrible situation I very glad to have them all. I hope this story will help someone out there that you are not alone.

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  • Hi everyone my husband passed away on the 5th October 2026 and his birthday is on the 22nd October and his daughters birthday's on the 20th October. As this is his first birthday on passing how do celebrate his birthday with his daughters any ideas x

  • Hi again, Summercomestous.

    I'm so sad to hear about your enormous and devastating loss.

    I'm afraid I don't have any ideas about the birthday celebrations. Whatever feels right for you, I guess.

    All of us on the forum are here for you. We'll always be here for you. Anytime.

    With warmest and hearfelt wishes.

  • Thank you dolplin99,

    For your kind words, I am just finding it hard knowing that he is not here anymore and it wasn't planned like this but nothing in this world is. I know I am grieving as it only a couple weeks. But can't stop thinking about him sitting in the ambulance sitting there asking for oxygen and me outside saying I love you and the girls love you  and you will fine and I love you and I will quickly follow after.The images are so strong of him I could see he was saying good bye. But It's good to talk and thank you for listening x️

  • You're always more than welcome, Summercomestous, you really are.

    I think you're so right when you say it's good to talk. Some of us simply need to ask questions and find answers. Others simply need to know they're not alone. You must feel dreadfully alone in this time of your darkest grief. I'm so sorry this is inevitably where you are just now. So sorry indeed.

    This forum is here for you. We're all here for you. You're in the right place whenever you need to talk, and there are other right places as well. You'll know where they are when you find them.

    Take care and please remember you're in our thoughts and hearts and we're always here.

  • It's been a couple weeks now since my husband had passed away but I still feel guilty for not making it in time to say good bye at the hospital. I feel empty and tried and I keep looking at the areas where my husband would be or places he would be sitting but I know his not there but I can see him sometimes which gives me comfort and makes me smile i know I have to carry on with life without him but know his always beside me and closes to me and always be in heart which I will never forget we were married for 26 years. The best years of my life which we produce two beautiful girls which they were a miracle as I was told I couldn't have children. I really do miss him and I know the grieving will subside later. So I am keeping myself busy and when it comes to a quiet spot I think of all the good things we done together and also I know that we will  meet again down the line. Thank you listening 

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  • It's been a couple weeks now since my husband had passed away but I still feel guilty for not making it in time to say good bye at the hospital. I feel empty and tried and I keep looking at the areas where my husband would be or places he would be sitting but I know his not there but I can see him sometimes which gives me comfort and makes me smile i know I have to carry on with life without him but know his always beside me and closes to me and always be in heart which I will never forget we were married for 26 years. The best years of my life which we produce two beautiful girls which they were a miracle as I was told I couldn't have children. I really do miss him and I know the grieving will subside later. So I am keeping myself busy and when it comes to a quiet spot I think of all the good things we done together and also I know that we will  meet again down the line. Thank you listening 

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  • We're all here for you, Summercomestous, and we'll always listen. Really, we will.

    In this darkest of times, when you feel so alone, we're all here for you. Really, we are.

    Anyone who has read your words will be holding you close in their hearts and thoughts.

    Please come back to us any time and let us know how things are going for you.

    You'll always have our respectful support. Always.

  • Thank you again. I haven't got a lot people to talk to about this as I don't want to upset my daughters they have been through enough on losing their daddy so soon. Thank you for everyone for reading and listening. I hope my story will bring some comfort to someone who's going through same thing.