My father had been unwell for sometime but only 2 weeks ago it was officially confirmed he had terminal cancer - there are masses around his stomach and in his bowel but they can not say where it all started from. In the short 2 week period my father has deteriorated very rapidly to the point where he is not eating, vomiting, on a drip as  well as a nasal gastric tube draining his stomach, has a driver giving him medication / pain relief, sleeping a lot more, when i saw him the other day he took a while to recognise me and then today we have had a call from the palliative team saying it is not 'medically advised' to go and see him as they described him 'as non compos mentis' - my head is in an absolute spin - only two weeks ago he could walk (all be it a very short distance) but now he is imminently about to die and we have been recommended not to see him and i don't know what to do - see him or not - will he understand what's going on, is he scared?, last time i saw him he said he wants to die which broke my heart - has anyone else been in this situation, what did you do? - Thanks