How do you cope

I was diagnosed with terminal cancer ( secondary breast) in Sept 24 my surgeon( when asked) gave me weeks to months. I've since been given a reprieve, of sorts, by the oncologist. Apart from certain side effects and less energy, I'm pretty well.  I can't reconcile the huge swings between having some time and almost wanting to not wake up tomorrow...because what's the point. 

  • it's not easy to carry the weight of both hope and fear at the same time. There is no right or wrong answer with coping. It is hard, especially when being told to do things you don't have the energy to do. it is frustrating at times (more often) but the uncertainty and the conflicting feelings you're experiencing—between holding onto hope and sometimes wishing for an end—are completely valid. Many people in your situation feel the same way. I find, that finding the joy in the little things are good. Like the smell of fresh air when stepping outside (especially if it's the first of the day / haven't been outside in a bit), When Spotify plays a good song when i have set it to play randomly, taking in a scent that brings you back to a happy memory, the first sip of cold water / a drink. 

  • Hi Chesca,  I am so sorry to hear about your secondary cancer.  I found out in September last year that I had secondary breast cancer with mets in pelvis, spine and ribs.  I am on treatment for this ribociclib, denosumab and exemastane.  I am coping pretty well will not too bad side effects.  I dont think that the doctor can give you a time line because we are all so different and my oncologist says its not terminal.  Its treatable not cureable.  I find that trying to keep my routine as normal as possible helps.  I take my four dogs for a walk every day and go shopping, for meals and to the pub.  I also find that this and other forums are helpful for me and there are so many positive people and stories out there.  I know we are all different and deal with things in different ways perhaps it might help you to talk to a professional.  I find it difficult to talk to family as they get very upset where an outsider is impartial and you can offload.  I am here if you need to chat.

    Lee x