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KarenSH
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Hi I'm a grieving 41 year old who has just lost her older sister of 48 years of age to

stage 4 cancer. I don't know how to deal with this it's ripped my family apart. My sister complained of stomach pains for the last 12 months and gps referred her to  hospital she had a few scans and they said she had IBS! The pain in her stomach continued so she took herself to a&e we're they scanned her again and 2 weeks later the results came in. She was told

ahe had a very rare form of cancer and it was terminal and it was incurable. We done all we could to prolong her life but 4 months after she was diagnosed she passed away. They day before she got her results she was working away like nothing was wrong with her. I'm so

angry confused and I don't know how to cope with her gone. She left behind 3 boys who rely on her for evwrything I will make sure they are ok but I do t know we're to start. Life is so cruel

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    I am so sorry for your loss. That is totally tragic and very unfair and cruel. I'm very sorry.

    How you're feeling now is completely normal. We all experience death and coping afterwards differently, there is no right or wrong way to feel and cope with this. I know how it feels, that feeling like time is stopped and your brain just freezes and can't really take anything in and process it. It's all normal and I promise you it will get better, maybe not straight away, but one day you will smile again.

    We are all here for you anytime you need us. You can vent here when you need to and we will listen and offer support.

    Pigtails xx

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    Thankyou. It's just a

    shock and why her my sister a mother who did t deserve this but does anyone see serve this vile illness who just comes into our lives and completely ruins family lives! We worry about silly little things day in and day out and then this freak of an illness

    does not care for anyone

    im still angry sorry

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    Hi I'm in a similar situation. It's horrible. I will send you a private message

     

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    Feel free to talk. I came across this forum and I'm choosing to vent and get it all out on here. Sorry if I'm to straight forward but this is my way and I hate the world and everyone in it right now so I need to vent

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    It's totally ok to be angry, upset, shocked. There's no wrong way to feel during this. It's so hard and it is so unfair. Sadly it's life but that doesn't make it any easier for anyone.

    I went through this with family before I got it. I remember feeling the way you do after.

    Cancer doesn't care who it invades or who it affects. 

    You can vent as much as you need to.

    Pigtails xx

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