Struggling to know how I feel. Dad terminal cancer.

Hi all, my dad was recently diagnosed with lung cancer after months of treatment for an abscess. By the time they realised they were wrong it was too late. He's had a nasty infection and they said if they could get that under control they could try radiotherapy to slow the growth. Eventually they started the radiotherapy but quickly realised it has no affect. The cancer is growing so fast his blood vessels can't keep up. It's spread and this week we found out that nothing can help him. They say it could be days or possibly weeks but not months. 
Today Iv said what I needed to say to him, I know he's going to be gone soon but I just feel so numb, not just to my dads situation but to life. I just feel like I'm not part of my day? I am grieving for certain he's just always been there and he won't be soon. I do understand the process but I can't seem to get myself to catch up. Does anyone have any advice? I need to feel whole again to support my mum and sisters properly. Thank you

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  • Anticipatory grief is as common as it is difficult to cope with.

    Be kind to yourself - you do not need to support your relatives, rather you all need to support each other and your Dad. 

    There's no quick fix, someone once said that grief is the price we pay for loving and for being loved. Just like love, the grieving process can't be rushed. We all need time to help us start to cope with this life changing event and we all experience grief differently. I was emotionally numb for months after my Mum died of cancer.
     

    Best wishes

    Dave
     

     

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  • Anticipatory grief is as common as it is difficult to cope with.

    Be kind to yourself - you do not need to support your relatives, rather you all need to support each other and your Dad. 

    There's no quick fix, someone once said that grief is the price we pay for loving and for being loved. Just like love, the grieving process can't be rushed. We all need time to help us start to cope with this life changing event and we all experience grief differently. I was emotionally numb for months after my Mum died of cancer.
     

    Best wishes

    Dave
     

     

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