I am so very very sorry to read your post regarding your Dad's diagnosis. I can completely know how you feel, my Mum was suddenly diagnosed in January/february of this year although they did a biopsy in her left lung (the tumor was found in her right lung this year) in 2017 and although they were chronic changes in her right upper lobe they decided to stop all CT scans to keep an eye on it, how I wish with all my heart I had stopped this decision and pushed for continued check-ups/biopsy in right lung. I feel heartbroken now over this. My Mum passed away in May.

I also grieved in advance and after Mum passed away I was in complete shock, numb. To some extent I still am. I go from crying to disbelief. My life feels unreal too. All your feelings are completely understandable and normal. You are going through the biggest situation with someone you love with all your heart that has been in your life all your life. Please don't expect to feel normal. Its overhwelming which is why you are struggling to 'catch up'. I still feel now that my life is surreal, I just can't get my head around any of it. You will be strong when the time is right for you to support your Mum and Sisters, its amazing but the strength when needed just comes from nowhere. You will all support and give each other the strength but I am not saying that after it will be easy. I can't say anything to make you feel ok with whats going on because its just utterly devastating. All I can say is continue as you are, be there for your Dad and your family and support each other and love each other, thats all you can do. We are here for when you need to talk, we understand your situation and I understand your pain. Please do not feel you alone. Just remember you can't feel or think normally when everything around you is falling apart, its ok to not be ok. take good care of yourself, thinking of you all.

Jane

I am so very very sorry to read your post regarding your Dad's diagnosis. I can completely know how you feel, my Mum was suddenly diagnosed in January/february of this year although they did a biopsy in her left lung (the tumor was found in her right lung this year) in 2017 and although they were chronic changes in her right upper lobe they decided to stop all CT scans to keep an eye on it, how I wish with all my heart I had stopped this decision and pushed for continued check-ups/biopsy in right lung. I feel heartbroken now over this. My Mum passed away in May.

I also grieved in advance and after Mum passed away I was in complete shock, numb. To some extent I still am. I go from crying to disbelief. My life feels unreal too. All your feelings are completely understandable and normal. You are going through the biggest situation with someone you love with all your heart that has been in your life all your life. Please don't expect to feel normal. Its overhwelming which is why you are struggling to 'catch up'. I still feel now that my life is surreal, I just can't get my head around any of it. You will be strong when the time is right for you to support your Mum and Sisters, its amazing but the strength when needed just comes from nowhere. You will all support and give each other the strength but I am not saying that after it will be easy. I can't say anything to make you feel ok with whats going on because its just utterly devastating. All I can say is continue as you are, be there for your Dad and your family and support each other and love each other, thats all you can do. We are here for when you need to talk, we understand your situation and I understand your pain. Please do not feel you alone. Just remember you can't feel or think normally when everything around you is falling apart, its ok to not be ok. take good care of yourself, thinking of you all.

Jane