Struggling to cope with dads cancer

my dad got diagnosed with bowel cancer 3 years ago, we then got told 6 months later after radiation and chemotherapy that his cancer had spread to his lungs. He was told it wasn't curable and chemo would only pro long his life. He has been super strong and been having chemo ever since, he does 6 months and then 3 months off. Recently I have noticed a decline with my dad, and I am really struggling with the whole thing. I've been trying to be strong for everyone and hold all my feelings in but it's making me I'll. everyday I feel rubbish, there's always something wrong. I don't know how I will cope without my dad, and the thought of it scares me.
every day he is going around my head 24/7, I wish that this wasn't happening to him and that a miracle would happen. I think I just need someone to talk too. I'm trying to be there for everyone else and keep a smile on my face. Some days are just so hard.

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Offline Moderator Lucie over 4 years ago

Hello xxhan88xx,
A warm welcome to Cancer Chat. I am so sorry to hear that your dad has been so poorly and that you have noticed a significant decline recently. It sounds that all this is taking its toll on your wellbeing. You mentioned that you are not feeling well on a daily basis so perhaps it might be worth talking to your doctor about how low you have been feeling. I am sure your GP will be able to help so don't hesitate to talk to your doctor about these thoughts you have been having and how it is hard for you to manage to keep a smile on your face.
You have come to the right place to talk to others who are looking after a loved one with cancer. Perhaps they have a parent or a relative who is in a similar situation, and I hope that they will be along shortly to share their experience with you. It does help to talk to others who are in a similar boat and understand what you are going through as sometimes it is hard to talk about these things to those who are closest to us.
Our nurses are also available on this free number 0808 800 4040 if you would like to talk things through with them - their line is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm.
We're thinking of you during this difficult time and wanted you to know that you are not alone.
Best wishes,
Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator
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Offline Moderator Lucie over 4 years ago

Hello xxhan88xx,
A warm welcome to Cancer Chat. I am so sorry to hear that your dad has been so poorly and that you have noticed a significant decline recently. It sounds that all this is taking its toll on your wellbeing. You mentioned that you are not feeling well on a daily basis so perhaps it might be worth talking to your doctor about how low you have been feeling. I am sure your GP will be able to help so don't hesitate to talk to your doctor about these thoughts you have been having and how it is hard for you to manage to keep a smile on your face.
You have come to the right place to talk to others who are looking after a loved one with cancer. Perhaps they have a parent or a relative who is in a similar situation, and I hope that they will be along shortly to share their experience with you. It does help to talk to others who are in a similar boat and understand what you are going through as sometimes it is hard to talk about these things to those who are closest to us.
Our nurses are also available on this free number 0808 800 4040 if you would like to talk things through with them - their line is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm.
We're thinking of you during this difficult time and wanted you to know that you are not alone.
Best wishes,
Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator
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