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My lovely Mum is dying so young :(

RoweThompson
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Hello,

I wanted to post on here just to see if there is ANYONE out there my age who understands. My mum was diagnosed with incurable Brain Cancer just weeks ago. She only has months to live. She is changed beyond belief.

My Mum is only 55, I am only 27. My Mum was a single parent to me and we are extremely close. She has moved in with me and my husband so we can care for her full time. It's so hard, I just can't bear the thought of losing her. I fear all that she will miss out on that she should have had a share in. Like grandchildren... 

It's so hard to just see her deteriorating with no way of helping her. My lovely, selfless Mum who didn't even make it to retirement after supporting me all of her life. 

I had booked us a trip to Venice in May. She probably won't even live that long, and she isn't even well enough to go downstairs. :( She made everyone Christmas dinner just months ago, and now she can't even walk properly or remember what day it is. 

She doesn't have any clue what is happening to her. She doesn't understand. I just want to scream and cry and hug her but I can't because it would distress her. 

She should have had so many more years with her here. So many more. People don't know how lucky they are to have their Mum until they're much older. It annoys me when people say 'losing a parent is hard at any age'. In fact it makes me want to punch them in the face! And if anyone said that in front of me they would certainly have a broken nose! 

She'll also be leaving behind her Dad who is only in his 70s himself and has Alzheimer's.
 

Life is so cruel. 

 

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    Hiya

     

    Im so sorry that you and your mum are going through this. Its just the start of a long painful journey, i wish i could say something to mske you feel better but there is nothing. I lost my mum on 29.5.22 to lung cancer spread to her bones and watching her die a slow painful death at 66 was heartbreaking..im 31 but i still feel like a baby. I thought mum would be around for another 25 years. 

    I fully identify with your anger and frustration, i already feel slightly jealous of my friends who can go to their mum. My mums phone has been switched off now i keep whatsapping her but nothing gets delivered. 

    Its going to be a long road for you and you will go through so many emotions, life is cruel. My mum retired in september and was diagnosed in october bedbound in december and dead by may. 

    I saw less and less of my mum each day, and i think about things i wish id asked or said. I have so many regrets. 

    My thoughts and prayers are with you there is nothing more to say

     

     

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    Hiya

     

    Im so sorry that you and your mum are going through this. Its just the start of a long painful journey, i wish i could say something to mske you feel better but there is nothing. I lost my mum on 29.5.22 to lung cancer spread to her bones and watching her die a slow painful death at 66 was heartbreaking..im 31 but i still feel like a baby. I thought mum would be around for another 25 years. 

    I fully identify with your anger and frustration, i already feel slightly jealous of my friends who can go to their mum. My mums phone has been switched off now i keep whatsapping her but nothing gets delivered. 

    Its going to be a long road for you and you will go through so many emotions, life is cruel. My mum retired in september and was diagnosed in october bedbound in december and dead by may. 

    I saw less and less of my mum each day, and i think about things i wish id asked or said. I have so many regrets. 

    My thoughts and prayers are with you there is nothing more to say

     

     

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