Just lost my mum to gallbladder cancer

As title states, I (27) lost my mum (58) nearly 3 weeks ago to gallbladder cancer. 
 

myself, my dad and my sister were called into a&e on the 10th September and were told that my mum had liver and gallbladder cancer.

 

exactly a week after we were told it was terminal and we're looking at weeks to months - 6 months without treatment would be good (treatment as in palliative chemo and also an operation either stent or bypass surgery as the cancer had also spread to the duadenum so my mum could not eat/would be sick bile which was backing up).

a week and a half after this diagnosis my mum had bypass surgery and rapidly deteriorated. 2 weeks from being told that the cancer was terminal we were told that mum had days to live. She passed away 4 days later with myself, my sister, my dad and her sister at her bedside in the hospital. 
 

I am absolutely heartbroken. My mum meant everything to my family, our partners, her grandchildren, friends and other family. 
 

Everything has happened so quickly, just over 6 weeks ago we found out my mum had cancer and the Friday just gone we held her funeral ( which was such a beautiful service planned by us all). I just cannot get over it and I know I won't I'll just learn to live with it, plus it's still so raw. I just look back on the last 6 weeks and it feels like forever we were told it was cancer, but also feels like yesterday. I just keep reliving every day that we were with her during the 3 weeks and 4 days that she went in to a&e up until passing. 
 

I just cannot believe she deteriorated so quickly. I miss her so much. 

i guess I don't have a question or discussion point, I just wanted to post. 
 

thank you to anybody who reads this.

Parents
  • Hello Januarybutterfly,

                                      thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings over your sad loss,they will resonate and bring some comfort too many people as they see they are not alone,

                                                                                                                                            David

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  • Hello Januarybutterfly,

                                      thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings over your sad loss,they will resonate and bring some comfort too many people as they see they are not alone,

                                                                                                                                            David

Children
  • Hi David,

    Thank you for replying, I'd like to think they bring even one other person comfort. During September I spent hours searching through these threads for a story which resembles what my mum went through and any I did find helped, so when I posted for some reason I didn't actually think it might help someone else even though that what I was searching for a couple of weeks ago, but if it does that's one small positive out of this all. 
     

    Again, thank you for taking your time to reply with your kind words.