Hi, thank you so much for your reply. 
 

I am so sorry for your loss. 
 

In all honesty I've never actually understood when people hope there's an afterlife after we die as to me I've always thought well what would it matter either way as we'll be dead, we won't know that we are dead? Now though I completely understand and hope so much that we get to see our parents (or any of our loved ones) again one day. The thought of going another 40 plus years in this life without being able to squeeze my mum again and then for it to just disappear into nothingness is just unbearable. 
 

Your dad will have known how much he means to you. Please also look after yourself, im not sure what I would have done without my sister in all of this, but for you being an only child it must be so so difficult right now. If you need to talk further, let me know. 

Hello Januarybutterfly,

                                  thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings over your sad loss,they will resonate and bring some comfort too many people as they see they are not alone,

                                                                                                                                        David

Hi David,

Thank you for replying, I'd like to think they bring even one other person comfort. During September I spent hours searching through these threads for a story which resembles what my mum went through and any I did find helped, so when I posted for some reason I didn't actually think it might help someone else even though that what I was searching for a couple of weeks ago, but if it does that's one small positive out of this all. 
 

Again, thank you for taking your time to reply with your kind words. 

Hi

I am glad that I have found this forum and this thread.  I lost my mum (70) to gallbladder cancer in September.  She was diagnosed in July and told that she had 6-12 months without any treatment, which would not have cured her.

In the end, my lovely Mum had 10 weeks.  The aggressive tumour blocked her bile duct and it went from there.  She went downhill very quickly.  
 

It's a truly heartbreaking process to go through, for everyone involved.  I felt like I was living in a bubble too from the point she was given her diagnosis to the day we lost her.  Since then it's been really difficult.  Sometimes the loss and pain is intense and others it doesn't feel real.  I play everything over and over in my head and night time is the worst, trying to stop my busy brain.

As others have said though, it's very early in the grieving process, it's going to take time and I'm trying to be kind to myself, that's the best advice I've been given. If the tears come, let them flow.  

I hope that at some point in the future I can be a good support to someone going through this or similar heartbreak.

xx

Hi 

Firstly I'm so sorry for your loss , 58 is no age bless her I'm so sorry xx

I lost my mum suddenly in March 2021 to gallbladder cancer , she was diandnosed late Jan and died 5 weeks later . I'm still in shock my sister and I took care of her once she was discharged from hospital in her final weeks. 
Because of lock down plus she was very concerned about covid and we lived 21/2 hrs away-the last time we saw her was the previous May ( to remove a fallen tree  and we really had to purseaude her to let's us come over to do that .) She looked full of health , come September she was complaining of aches in her right side but put it down to too much gardening even though I did suggest she should see a doctor or speak to my friend who's a physiotherapist but she wasn't interested in either felt it would pass.  By early Jan i could hear in her voice that she was very sick , she always sounded so young and totally with it , I had never heard her like this but still she refused help so I called her doctors and asked them to visit her as I was very concerned , my mum wasn't pleased as she didn't want anyone in her house because of covid , but she did reluctantly let them in and they took bloods as they could she was very unwell  , when the results came back we were told she must come in instantly to the hospital,  and she died 5 weeks later . 
she was 78 but seemed so healthy her whole life.  The only difference was   around 3 years ago she started to  lose weight and she said it was just because she was eating well but Clearly she had issues with her gallbladder then and this was the start i told her back then she shouldn't  be losing that much weight unless she was training for something but she was not one to every worry or go to the doctor.
I miss her very much cancer can be a silent killer I lost my dad when I was 19 within weeks also of diognosis of stomach cancer he was only 56 xx

Hi LuluRebecca,

I am so sorry for my late reply and I am also deeply sorry to hear that you have lost both of your parents to cancer. It is truly such an awful awful disease, to lose both of your parents in a short space of time after diagnosis is horrendous.

It's so hard to think that we'll never see them again. I miss my mum so much and unfortunately my dreams don't help with this as I can't dream of her without having cancer now. 
 

How are you and your sister doing?