Has anyone had signs from a loved one that’s ‘passed over?’

Hi. My lovely, kind, caring, brave mother died of the awful 'c' word. Her anniversary's coming up next month. I hope no one thinks i'm a whimp. But it's the 4th year anniversary. I feel i should be further along with my 'journey of grief'. But i'm not. We were so close. I feel like i've lost several people, the grief is still so fresh. I'm getting emotional as i write this!

Anyway.

One morning. It was a few months after she'd died. I was very low. Had my head under my duvet. Feeling so emotional. Then i heard a lovely bird chirping. I thought it was in my bedroom. I slowly drew back the curtain & saw a lovely little bird looking up at me. (I think it was a Greenfinch). All our flats have wire round the windowledges, to stop birds landing. But it didn't stop this lovely little thing. I said hello quietly & asked it to come in. It didn't. it took 1 more concerned look at me. Then flitted off. The thing is. I've lived in my flat for nearly 20 yrs. That sort of thing never happened before or since. I just know it was my lovely mum telling me she's ok. She's free. Free from pain & FREE AS A BIRD. That little moment meant so much to me. Very special. 
 

I wondered if anyone else had any 'signs' like this? 

 

 

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  • Hi Lizzy.

    Your dad must be a strong man. Losing both parents the same month? Very emotional.

    I lost my lovely dad when i was 17. (He was 52). I was 50 this year! So i was very close to my mum. My brother went onto Uni. I Fell inlove at 21. Left home. Got married. But then  developed arthritis & my lovely mum. (Who was a nurse, nursed me). She was so lovely. That's why i've found losing her, extra hard. 
     

    i've had counselling sessions. But of course. It doesn't stop you missing them.

    Good luck with everything. Hope your dad's pain eases. X