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Really struggling after the loss of my mum.

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Hi, my mum was diagnosed with metastatic cancer, the day after I gave birth to my baby boy (may 2021)She had no symptoms at all. She was 60 years old, didn't drink or smoke. Exercised regularly. Never had any health conditions. She died 8 weeks after diagnosis. (July 2021). I am really really struggling with everything and i don't know where to turn. I have spoke to the GP and they have gave me antidepressants but they don't help. Every single second of every day is consumed by my thoughts of wanting to be with my mum. I have a baby and a 5 year old and a lovely boyfriend but I just don't want to exist without my mum. She was my whole world and it happened so fast, I have no reason to be alive anymore. I don't know what to do. Please give me some advice because I'm struggling to get through each day!

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  • Hi teddybear2204,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss - I'm sure this must be incredibly difficult. Everyone's experience with grief is different and it may take time for things to feel more manageable again - but by taking things a day, or an hour, at a time, keep believing that things will get a little easier.

    In the meantime, there are options for support. If you feel able to, keep speaking to those around you as it usually helps to talk. We are of course always here on the forum too and there will be many others here who have experienced something similar. I can see you've had a lovely reply from Chrissie already.

    You may also find it helpful to explore bereavement counselling. Speaking to a professional can help with processing things, and it sometimes helps to speak to someone more neutral like this. Have a look at the Cruse website - here you can explore resources and can see local services too. They also have a helpline.

    Take care of yourself and as I say, we're always here for support.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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  • Hi teddybear2204,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss - I'm sure this must be incredibly difficult. Everyone's experience with grief is different and it may take time for things to feel more manageable again - but by taking things a day, or an hour, at a time, keep believing that things will get a little easier.

    In the meantime, there are options for support. If you feel able to, keep speaking to those around you as it usually helps to talk. We are of course always here on the forum too and there will be many others here who have experienced something similar. I can see you've had a lovely reply from Chrissie already.

    You may also find it helpful to explore bereavement counselling. Speaking to a professional can help with processing things, and it sometimes helps to speak to someone more neutral like this. Have a look at the Cruse website - here you can explore resources and can see local services too. They also have a helpline.

    Take care of yourself and as I say, we're always here for support.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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