Hi Maddison

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. I lost my lovely dad to melanoma that spread to his liver and brain 3 years ago. He was only 61 and I was 28 at the time. Similar age to you. He was in hospital for 2 weeks before he died so I watched him getting worse and less responsive each day, though I wasn't there at the very end. It was all quite traumatic and I struggled a lot to sleep for a long time afterwards. I also didn't really have anyone to talk to at the time as no one I knew had lost a parent. It's 3 years on now and of course I still miss my dad terribly but I am doing OK. You'll get through this, stay strong and I'm here to chat if you need x

I wanted to reply to you, as although I'm a bit older (33) my brother is your age and I know how difficult and unfair it feels. 

I'm sending you a lot of love and strength for the coming months. Your mum will stay with you and help you cope. 

If you need anyone to chat to, I'm here. 

Big virtual hug ️ ️ ️

Hi [@Maddison]‍ 

I just wanted to say I'm so sorry about the loss of your Mum and what you're going through right now.

I'm 32, so a bit older than you, but I lost my Mum last month to advanced lung cancer. I can really relate to how you're feeling right now, I'm struggling to accept she's really gone and miss her terribly. I didn't know my Mum was going to pass away so soon either as she didn't seem that unwell. Only 3 days after her diagnosis, we had to phone an ambulance for her as she was feeling very breathless and she passed away that day in the hospital. I can understand she shock you're going through right now.

I don't have much advice for you as I'm in the early stages of grief myself but I would say keep talking about it. I've found that talking about what happened to my Mum, including on this forum, has helped me process it all a bit better. Just know you're not alone and please feel free to reach out to me if you want to talk further.

Thinking of you,

J

Hi Maddison,

I am so so sorry for your loss. You have had a dreadful shock and trauma. I lost my mum when I was 33(the week before my 34th birthday) and I was with her, so I can absolutely relate to what you've been through.

If you feel there are unanswered questions about what happened you can get in touch with the hospital and ask to talk to someone who can help you to understand. This may help you to start processing what you've been through.

I am sending you lots of love, I hope the people on this chat are of comfort to you and keep talking if you need to xxx