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Sometimes I feel I’m starting to forget him

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Hi everyone, it's coming up to the 2 year anniversary of my dad dying. He was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died a month after this. It has been the hardest 2 years of my life but I know he would be proud of me for how I have kept going and will always keep trying to make him proud.

I still miss dad every single day but recently I worry I am starting to forget him - what he sounds like, his mannerisms, how it felt to hug him, the small things that made him him. I don't think it's acceptance that he's gone because I am still desperately sad and grieving for him.  I have some videos and I watch them whenever I feel like I can't remember what he sounds like but has anyone else felt this way and what do you do to help? 

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    Hi Gabrielle, my sister passed away 2 years ago in April and I know exactly how you feel. My sister and I were very close. We have an older sister who is mentally handicapped and our dad has dementia. I still miss her so much and can't believe it's been 2 years since we spoke, hugged, laughed, danced, cried. My friends don't understand I am still grieving. I'm grieving for the life we would have had. She was the only other person that I could really talk to about our older sister and our poor dad who now still asks about his youngest daughter that passed away. Your dad would have been proud of you and I do believe  that he will be watching over you. I look at photos to remind me of my sister but it still seems unreal she is not here. I'm sure what we are both feeling is 'normal' . You will have your dads mannerisms, he was part of you. We've got to think of the happy times, although I find it very difficult and still remember when my sister was ill. Thinking of you and sorry to hear you are still desperately sad and grieving for your dad as I am for my little sister  I'm here if you ever want to message me. Xxx

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    Hi Gabrielle, my sister passed away 2 years ago in April and I know exactly how you feel. My sister and I were very close. We have an older sister who is mentally handicapped and our dad has dementia. I still miss her so much and can't believe it's been 2 years since we spoke, hugged, laughed, danced, cried. My friends don't understand I am still grieving. I'm grieving for the life we would have had. She was the only other person that I could really talk to about our older sister and our poor dad who now still asks about his youngest daughter that passed away. Your dad would have been proud of you and I do believe  that he will be watching over you. I look at photos to remind me of my sister but it still seems unreal she is not here. I'm sure what we are both feeling is 'normal' . You will have your dads mannerisms, he was part of you. We've got to think of the happy times, although I find it very difficult and still remember when my sister was ill. Thinking of you and sorry to hear you are still desperately sad and grieving for your dad as I am for my little sister  I'm here if you ever want to message me. Xxx

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