Hi Jen,

I am so sorry for your loss and I cant actually believe I am in the situation whereby these forums have become part of my life, it still seems as though this all isn't real. I lost my beautiful mummy in March this year. She's just the world to me, when she was diagnosed last year me and my family moved in with her and my dad for support and to avoid the possibility of covid keeping us apart. I was with her every step of the way but still beat myself up for not doing enough.

I literally have her in my head all day everyday and my little girl misses her dearly so talks about her at every opportunity. I am also pregnant and although grateful for my blessings just feel so scared and lost without my confidant. I just feel like I am in a bubble and my whole life is in limbo!

My hardworking, lively, hilarious little mummy, how do I navigate through life from here without you.

Please may they continue to give us the strength to keep going.

Take care x

I am in the same boat. I am 39 and I lost my mum to advanced breast cancer in May. She was 64 and her cancer returned two years ago, we all thought it was being managed and that she'd be around for much longer. I really wanted my children to have a grandmother's love. 

I have two young kids, one is 4 and a half and the other is 1. my daughter absolutely loved her grandma and she loved her back. My mum loved being a grandmother and really didn't want to die and leave us. Today I am a mess for some reason. I think about my mum all day every day, I used to call her every day with the kids, and it feels like now I have no one even though I have two sisters. I don't know how people do this either. I watched my mum deteriorate so quickly over the last 3 months of her life. I live in 2 hours away from her, but we have spent the last 4 months driving down every weekend and spending as much as we could with her. for the last month I have been at my parents more than my home and my husband was looking after my daughter. My daughter has since started holding in her poop and I wonder if this is all related. My marriage has also suffered as we have just been in survival mode these past few months. I just don’t have the energy to work on my relationship as I feel so broken. But I will try as I have too. My husband lost his mother in December just gone so we've been through the mill this year.

I returned to work last week and I struggle to concentrate, I work from home though so that helps at least. 

I have to keep going for the children, but I just feel so sad/low all the time. I cry nearly every day although not all day. It’s just so hard, I keep thinking why her, why did I have to lose my mum. I thought I was prepared for this given her diagnosis, but it doesn't feel like it. People keep asking if I am ok, and I say I am as it’s just easier then actually telling them that I'm not. I am not ok, my marriage is not ok, but my kids are beautiful and that keeps me going. I am exhasuted too, from everything, the grief, the lack of sleep, from having to travel to my parents every weekend just to see my dad and so he can see his grandchildren as they are the only ones who can make him smile now. 

I just hope that the pain eases one day

I am in the same boat. I am 39 and I lost my mum to advanced breast cancer in May. She was 64 and her cancer returned two years ago, we all thought it was being managed and that she'd be around for much longer. I really wanted my children to have a grandmother's love. 

I have two young kids, one is 4 and a half and the other is 1. my daughter absolutely loved her grandma and she loved her back. My mum loved being a grandmother and really didn't want to die and leave us. Today I am a mess for some reason. I think about my mum all day every day, I used to call her every day with the kids, and it feels like now I have no one even though I have two sisters. I don't know how people do this either. I watched my mum deteriorate so quickly over the last 3 months of her life. I live in 2 hours away from her, but we have spent the last 4 months driving down every weekend and spending as much as we could with her. for the last month I have been at my parents more than my home and my husband was looking after my daughter. My daughter has since started holding in her poop and I wonder if this is all related. My marriage has also suffered as we have just been in survival mode these past few months. I just don’t have the energy to work on my relationship as I feel so broken. But I will try as I have too. My husband lost his mother in December just gone so we've been through the mill this year.

I returned to work last week and I struggle to concentrate, I work from home though so that helps at least. 

I have to keep going for the children, but I just feel so sad/low all the time. I cry nearly every day although not all day. It’s just so hard, I keep thinking why her, why did I have to lose my mum. I thought I was prepared for this given her diagnosis, but it doesn't feel like it. People keep asking if I am ok, and I say I am as it’s just easier then actually telling them that I'm not. I am not ok, my marriage is not ok, but my kids are beautiful and that keeps me going. I am exhasuted too, from everything, the grief, the lack of sleep, from having to travel to my parents every weekend just to see my dad and so he can see his grandchildren as they are the only ones who can make him smile now. 

I just hope that the pain eases one day