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I feel like I can’t talk to anybody about my mums death

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My mum died of stomach cancer over 3 years ago, when I was 15 and my sister was 13. She was my rock and my best friend and the glue to my family.  My sister is suicidal , my dad has a new girlfriend (who is actually wonderful) and everything is changing so fast I have no idea what to do, everything feels so hard. 
I get so sad but it hurts the people I love to talk about it, sometimes I just need someone to listen , but now my fears have come true and I upset people too much for them to know what to say or to just listen. I hate hurting people I feel like such a burden on my boyfriend and my friends. 
I miss her , I miss my gorgeous mum and I don't know what to do. 
holly 

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  • Hi Holly,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm very sorry to hear of what has happened with your mum and I can only imagine how incredibly tough this must be for you and your family.

    Firstly, this forum is always a safe space to write down how you feel or to get things off your chest. It's a very welcoming and understanding community of people and there will be others here who have been through something similar. Hopefully you also have others around you who you can speak to from time to time, but either way as I say we are always here for you too.

    I can see you've already had some helpful replies and good advice from others on the forum which is great.

    It may help for you to reach out to an organisation who can provide support and that can be an outlet to you. For you and your sister, the organisations Child Bereavement UK and also Hope Again can offer valuable support so do reach out to them if you feel like you're struggling.

    If you ever feel really concerned about your sister (or yourself), do also call Samaritans - they're there 24/7 and you can reach them on freephone 116 123.

    Take care of yourself and as I say we're always here for support.

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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  • Hi Holly,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm very sorry to hear of what has happened with your mum and I can only imagine how incredibly tough this must be for you and your family.

    Firstly, this forum is always a safe space to write down how you feel or to get things off your chest. It's a very welcoming and understanding community of people and there will be others here who have been through something similar. Hopefully you also have others around you who you can speak to from time to time, but either way as I say we are always here for you too.

    I can see you've already had some helpful replies and good advice from others on the forum which is great.

    It may help for you to reach out to an organisation who can provide support and that can be an outlet to you. For you and your sister, the organisations Child Bereavement UK and also Hope Again can offer valuable support so do reach out to them if you feel like you're struggling.

    If you ever feel really concerned about your sister (or yourself), do also call Samaritans - they're there 24/7 and you can reach them on freephone 116 123.

    Take care of yourself and as I say we're always here for support.

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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