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I feel like I can’t talk to anybody about my mums death

Holly12346
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My mum died of stomach cancer over 3 years ago, when I was 15 and my sister was 13. She was my rock and my best friend and the glue to my family.  My sister is suicidal , my dad has a new girlfriend (who is actually wonderful) and everything is changing so fast I have no idea what to do, everything feels so hard. 
I get so sad but it hurts the people I love to talk about it, sometimes I just need someone to listen , but now my fears have come true and I upset people too much for them to know what to say or to just listen. I hate hurting people I feel like such a burden on my boyfriend and my friends. 
I miss her , I miss my gorgeous mum and I don't know what to do. 
holly 

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    Holly I'm so sorry for everything you've gone and going through. I don't know what to say for best. Maybe find groups like this to talk to people who have experienced the same. You will never be a burden to real friends. Ive only just started this journey with my Dad so I'm totally lost at the moment, he came out of hospital today and it's worrying how poorly he's got over a week. I hope you find someone to lean on love xxxx

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    Holly I'm so sorry for everything you've gone and going through. I don't know what to say for best. Maybe find groups like this to talk to people who have experienced the same. You will never be a burden to real friends. Ive only just started this journey with my Dad so I'm totally lost at the moment, he came out of hospital today and it's worrying how poorly he's got over a week. I hope you find someone to lean on love xxxx

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    It's very scary watching someone you love become iller and iller, and despite what I said things get easier in weird ways. I am sending all my love. Thank you for your kind words. 
    being lost with how to feel is sometimes okay, let every emotion flow into you like waves don't feel that you can't feel upset or down or angry or stressed, there is no normal when things like this happen to those we love xxxx

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