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Returning to work after passing away of my mother.. help ple

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Hi all

My mum passed away last week with a very short space between diagnosis and her not being here. I have been off for three weeks, one of which was when she was bought home from hospital, then readmitted 2 days later. 

We have been told today we cannot hold her funeral until the 8th April, which has made me feel so anxious because it's like the final thing, and I've been feeling very emotional about even thinking and organising it.

Given it's a month between, I am looking for some advice as to when to go back to work? Should it be before the funeral? Or after? At the moment I spend most of my days feeling utterly exhausted, and just staring at the wall which I know sounds strange but it's true! I feel like if I continue doing this for another month before we finally say goodbye, it may damage my mental health further. Has anyone else felt like this? 

Any advice would be so appreciated. Thank you ️

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    Hi

    I watched my mum slowly fade away for 6 months, she had terminal lung cancer when she was diagnosed.  As soon as I found out, I completely went to pieces.  I got myself signed off with stress, my GP and my employer were amazing.  I stayed off sick until after my mums funeral.  Years later my dad was diagnosed with neck & mouth cancer, he was given 4 months to live.  Again i got myself signed off with stress until after the funeral.

    Entirely up to you, but you need to give yourself time to grieve and also to organise things, as you'll want to do all you can, as its the last thing you can ever do for your mum.... please speak to your GP,  your workplace is still there, you need to look after yourself too...

    Take Care

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    Hi

    I watched my mum slowly fade away for 6 months, she had terminal lung cancer when she was diagnosed.  As soon as I found out, I completely went to pieces.  I got myself signed off with stress, my GP and my employer were amazing.  I stayed off sick until after my mums funeral.  Years later my dad was diagnosed with neck & mouth cancer, he was given 4 months to live.  Again i got myself signed off with stress until after the funeral.

    Entirely up to you, but you need to give yourself time to grieve and also to organise things, as you'll want to do all you can, as its the last thing you can ever do for your mum.... please speak to your GP,  your workplace is still there, you need to look after yourself too...

    Take Care

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