Hi, 

I think I replied to your post last week, my mum had died three days earlier. I'm sorry to hear that your Mum passed away and I hope she's now at peace and you can start to remember and celebrate what a wonderful woman I'm sure she was. I think going back to work is a personal choice, I went back straight away as I think it's helped my grief, keeping busy and talking about my Mum has helped a lot. We've had to wait for my Mums funeral as well, it's on the 19th, which will be just over three weeks after she died, I don't think I could have not been at work during these three weeks, it has helped me feel a bit normal at times and I know my Mum would want life to carry on. I hope this helps and I'm here to help if you need anything else. 
Good luck x

You did reply to my post, thank you and thank you for replying again! 

you're right, keeping busy does take your mind off things, and I agree with you, my mum would want life to carry on too. I think I just worry about feeling overwhelmed if I'm having a bad day, but I can't see it doing me any good to sit at home and just think for another month!

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, I hope the next few weeks, months are kind to you xx

You did reply to my post, thank you and thank you for replying again! 

you're right, keeping busy does take your mind off things, and I agree with you, my mum would want life to carry on too. I think I just worry about feeling overwhelmed if I'm having a bad day, but I can't see it doing me any good to sit at home and just think for another month!

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, I hope the next few weeks, months are kind to you xx

Hi, 

I am really sorry to hear about your Mum. I lost my Mum 26th January. I am completely devastated and still cannot believe this has happened! We have had to wait a long time for her funeral which is coming up soon Monday 15th March. The delay was due to the cemetery only doing 2 burials a day. 
 

I have been signed off work since my Mum passed away as I don't feel ready to return to work. I am a teacher and just do not have the energy to put on a 'happy' act to teach. As much as I love teaching, I now wish I had a job where I could hide away a bit more! 
 

My Dad died 10 years ago and I returned to work a week after his funeral and looking back I felt pressured to go back by my headteacher. I would cry driving to work, cry driving home and cry for hours in the evenings and I was so drained. I look back and think I should have taken more time off. 

My advice would be if you want a distraction and think work might be what you need you could ask your GP to put on your sick note that you would like to do a few hours and build it up over the week/weeks - design it to your needs. Hopefully your work will understand and be sympathetic. 
 

Wishing you all the best on this awful journey of grief xx 
 

Hello [@JP7956]‍ 

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum, and I'm so sorry the funeral had such a delay, that must be incredibly difficult when it's already one of the most emotionally testing times you can go through. 

Thank you for sending your advice, I think my head is probably suggesting I should go back, even if it's just a couple of days but my heart feels very differently at the moment unfortunately. I hope it does get easier with time as everyone says.

Take care of yourself, and lots of love for the future XXX

Hello I’ve just lost my mum on 30/4 her funeral was a week later sk everything has felt like a whirlwind and now I have to think about going back to work . I miss mum terribly and I live on my own so it’s quiet a lot if the time. I feel I need a new routine but I just don’t know what to do yet xxx

Hi (K80ey), I just lost my mum too - 31/5.  Had her funeral on Friday just gone.  I agree with what 'Newlife101' said above - I feel like this is just the start now - a new life without our mums!  I've logged onto work today (from home) for the first time properly since she got ill on the 31/3.  I spoke to her every day and she came round every Sunday, I do have a husband and kids so they do keep me busy...but there is now a big hole that she once filled.  I'm the same as you...feel like I need a new routine - I said when she got ill and had to go into hospital and surrounded by all the illness that I would get into exercise more, live more, do more - but currently its an effort to stop staring into space and eating chocolate!!  I'm thinking about doing a challenge - perhaps do something for charity -  a walk, or run, or cycle or something - a focus.  I have been invited to a 90 minute support session from the hospice she was in, so I'm going to attend that (I'm not keen on these things but have heard that they help, so will give it a go).  I know it gets better with time, my dad died 16 years ago, and so I do know time heals - it just feels more painful this time round. xxx