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Dealing with Dad's death

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My Dad passed away in February after a 3 year battle with cancer. He had a terminal diagnosis, however, there was no signposting that he was towards end of life and deteriorated so suddenly in a number of days; so I didn't really have time to prepare for him to die so soon.

I'm 20 and his death is the biggest loss that I've faced so far in my life. I'm at university working in hospital and I'm finding it really difficult to process that he is no longer in my life and that he won't be there for major events in my life like my graduation, wedding and children etc.

I'm busy with uni work but I find myself thinking about him during the day and then I find myself feeling really upset. It might sound stupid but I keep thinking that I don't want to do things without him but I know that I have to continue and live for him.

I haven't used this forum before, so I'm not really sure what to expect but was hoping that maybe someone who has gone through something similiar has any advice for dealing with death.

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    Hi 

    So sorry to read this .I lost my dad in January to this cruel diesese and only had the funeral last Thursday.Like you I feel completely the same thinking about him all the time and find it so painful that he's not here.I work at a hospital where my dad also worked and I'm returning tomorrow and completely dreading it .My life before was caring for my dad everyday, ringing him and just being there it's going to be just awful without him.

    The emotions you go through are just painful but there is nothing we can do , I find just talking and acknowleding what you have been through can help cope .What you have gone though is devastating . Grief is no race it takes time and will always be with you as it's your Dad but don't feel alone or afraid to show emotion.I think to myself alot what would my dad say to me or how would he deal with this ..most of the time he would say just get on with it . Every thing you feel is normal I didn't want to see or talk to people I still struggle now .But I guess grief is the price we pay for love .So sorry you are going through this .

    Please feel free to message any time I truly understand , take care X 

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    Hi 

    So sorry to read this .I lost my dad in January to this cruel diesese and only had the funeral last Thursday.Like you I feel completely the same thinking about him all the time and find it so painful that he's not here.I work at a hospital where my dad also worked and I'm returning tomorrow and completely dreading it .My life before was caring for my dad everyday, ringing him and just being there it's going to be just awful without him.

    The emotions you go through are just painful but there is nothing we can do , I find just talking and acknowleding what you have been through can help cope .What you have gone though is devastating . Grief is no race it takes time and will always be with you as it's your Dad but don't feel alone or afraid to show emotion.I think to myself alot what would my dad say to me or how would he deal with this ..most of the time he would say just get on with it . Every thing you feel is normal I didn't want to see or talk to people I still struggle now .But I guess grief is the price we pay for love .So sorry you are going through this .

    Please feel free to message any time I truly understand , take care X 

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