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Dealing with Dad's death

natasha2000
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My Dad passed away in February after a 3 year battle with cancer. He had a terminal diagnosis, however, there was no signposting that he was towards end of life and deteriorated so suddenly in a number of days; so I didn't really have time to prepare for him to die so soon.

I'm 20 and his death is the biggest loss that I've faced so far in my life. I'm at university working in hospital and I'm finding it really difficult to process that he is no longer in my life and that he won't be there for major events in my life like my graduation, wedding and children etc.

I'm busy with uni work but I find myself thinking about him during the day and then I find myself feeling really upset. It might sound stupid but I keep thinking that I don't want to do things without him but I know that I have to continue and live for him.

I haven't used this forum before, so I'm not really sure what to expect but was hoping that maybe someone who has gone through something similiar has any advice for dealing with death.

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  • Hello Natasha2000

    I'm sorry to hear about your Dad's passing earlier this year. It's obviously been a very difficult time for you. 

    Grief is a natural process, but it can be devastating and it is very early on your journey through grief. 

    We have a number of members here who have lost a parent or loved one and hopefully some of them will comment to share their experiences with you. 

    Whilst I know it can sound like a cliche, try to take each day as it comes and not look too far ahead at the moment. It can help to talk to someone as well and you might like to think about getting in touch with Cruse, a charity that offers bereavement support. Alternatively, you might be able to access counselling through your employer or the University. This can typically be done without the need for anyone else to know. 

    I hope this helps. Be gentle with yourself Natasha and keep talking. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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  • Hello Natasha2000

    I'm sorry to hear about your Dad's passing earlier this year. It's obviously been a very difficult time for you. 

    Grief is a natural process, but it can be devastating and it is very early on your journey through grief. 

    We have a number of members here who have lost a parent or loved one and hopefully some of them will comment to share their experiences with you. 

    Whilst I know it can sound like a cliche, try to take each day as it comes and not look too far ahead at the moment. It can help to talk to someone as well and you might like to think about getting in touch with Cruse, a charity that offers bereavement support. Alternatively, you might be able to access counselling through your employer or the University. This can typically be done without the need for anyone else to know. 

    I hope this helps. Be gentle with yourself Natasha and keep talking. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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