Hello Nat10

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your Mum last year and just how much you're struggling with the news that you also carry the BRCA1 gene. 

It's good to hear that your most recent tests and scans were clear but I'm sure that many of our members here will understand the fear that comes with living with the "what if" that lurks in the back of your mind. As you've already mentioned, being stuck in lockdown makes things much harder as well. 

I'm unsure who arranged for your genetic testing but if you still have access to your local genetics service then I wonder if it may be worth getting in touch with them to talk about things, how you're struggling to cope and what your options may be. If you don't have direct access to contact the genetics services then I'd suggest speaking to your GP who should be able to arrange for you to speak to someone. 

You might also want to have a think about contacting Cruse, a charity that offers bereavement support. Grief is a natural process but it can be devastating and it can help to talk things through with someone who understands. 

I hope this helps you to find the support that you need and that things improve for you soon. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Hello Nat10

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your Mum last year and just how much you're struggling with the news that you also carry the BRCA1 gene. 

It's good to hear that your most recent tests and scans were clear but I'm sure that many of our members here will understand the fear that comes with living with the "what if" that lurks in the back of your mind. As you've already mentioned, being stuck in lockdown makes things much harder as well. 

I'm unsure who arranged for your genetic testing but if you still have access to your local genetics service then I wonder if it may be worth getting in touch with them to talk about things, how you're struggling to cope and what your options may be. If you don't have direct access to contact the genetics services then I'd suggest speaking to your GP who should be able to arrange for you to speak to someone. 

You might also want to have a think about contacting Cruse, a charity that offers bereavement support. Grief is a natural process but it can be devastating and it can help to talk things through with someone who understands. 

I hope this helps you to find the support that you need and that things improve for you soon. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

I'm a constant worrier and when that happened to my mum last year it did scare me a lot. My mI'm didn't find out she was Brca1 until her cancer kept coming back so if she would have known this before maybe the outcome would have been different. But in a way I am glad I know I carry the gene as I am 1st I. The que for tests like it's coming up to my yearly mri which will be my second scan that will be in March. 
like I said massive over thinker ! 
Thankyou for your reply 

Nat xx