Hi Hannah, 

I just wanted to welcome you to our community and offer my sincerest and heartfelt condolences for your loss.

I can tell from your post how much your dad meant to you and I'm really sorry you've had to say goodbye to him at such a young age.

I'm sure some of our members who have been on this journey will offer their support and advice to you soon but whilst you wait I just wanted to share some information we have on coping with grief.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Hannah

so sorry for your loss, my children have lost their father to cancer just over a year now .  My daughter was 15 and just about to turn 16 and my son was 18.  My husband was only 54.  I feel for you as there are so many hurdles ahead but the best thing is to just focus one day at a time do not think ahead . He sounds like he has had an amazing life you need to cling onto that.  My husband was a happy positive person and enjoyed life .  I always tell myself that they would not want you to be sad.  Maybe find a picture of him that makes you smile so when you feeling down focus on that picture the one that is telling you that you will ok.  How is your mum doing? It is hard with this covid going on doesn’t help when you are grieving but make sure you have a good network of friends and family around you x

Hey, hope your ok?! I lost my dad 3 days ago - when you created this post. 

Totally devastated is an understatement... for 36 years he has been my hero, my lifeline, my king! 

Not even sure he died of cancer, his lungs were in such a bad way he would not have survived a biopsy.

We are awaiting a post mortem. My world has crumbled. I am no longer his little girl and that breaks my heart. I worried too that my dad was scared of what was going to happen, the unknown. I was scared for him and wished so bad I could take that away.

Just before he passed, he asked to see my siblings and I and mustered all his being to talk with us and tell us he loved us. 

I cannot imagine a world without him in in it!

I lost my mum when I was 26 in very different circumstances but very painful non the less. Life is cruel. Please message me if you need to talk with someone. Maybe we can support each other x

Hi Hannah, 

I can relate to your post so much, I'm so sorry you have joined this very cruel club. 
 

We were slightly older than you, my dad passed away 20 months ago when I was 31 and he was 58. 
Dad had 7 months from diagnosis of oesophagus cancer, previously told he had indigestion. Full story on my profile. 
 

My dad was my world, we had a very happy family unit, he like yours had lived 2 life's in his one and his popularity astonished me even though I knew he was so loved. 
 

It is so so painful and like you the only words I have ever had to describe it is heartbreaking. I never in a million years imagined this would happen to us or that I would ever smile again or stop crying every day, but I want to tell you that you will. I promise you that if you just take one day at a time, sometimes even an hour at a time when it is so overwhelming you will get though it. 
We had bought our wedding forward for dad and still went ahead with it 6 months to the day he died, my heart was never in it, but I figured it would never be the same 6 months or 6 years on and despite everything it was a nice day. 
I gave birth to his first grandchild 2 weeks after he went to sleep, devastating to know he was so excited and would never meet him, he was the only one that knew it was a boy, breaks my heart. 

Life has to go on and I am proof that all these firsts will happen and you will get through them still standing, I promise you that. It's too early for you to see it at the moment and you mustn't force yourself to feel ok. 
 

I have very bad days still now, my mum and sister do as well. We still talk about him all the time, he is very present in our lives still and always will be. 
 

As you can see, all this time on and I still feel I need to come here and talk about things. Always here to talk, id like to think I'm a step ahead and can help in some way x