Hi there ...

So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... loosing a parent , I think is the second hardest thing we have to go through ... you've only just lost your mum ... three months is nothing, it's still raw ...

We all think grieving is a certain way ... what we should or shouldn't do or feel ... where in reality it's different for every one .. I'd say go with how you feel .. give your heart permission to feel what ever comes into... and say that's o.k ... I felt very like you, and couldn't understand it ... but then I had a feeling she was still around , telling me she's o.k now ... l didn't feel the need to cry at her funeral ... couldn't understand it ... yet 2 years later cryed all through an uncle's funeral I wasn't close to .. then it hit me, I was crying for mum ... just 2 years on ... 

My mum was my best buddy to ... and over the years I've felt her close like finding feathers everywhere on having my breast cancer diagnosed ... nearly every day ... then when they said I had a contained cancer and small chance of spread ... the feathers stopped ..

Now if your mum's watching you, would she rather see you o.k or crying 24/7  ... I think you know .. and she's not left you, as you are half of her ... you carry her with you in your heart .... you just can't see her, but she's around ... like my mum ..

So be kind to yourself .. carry on ... if you ever want to cry , then cry ... or cuss ... or smile ... it's all just o.k ...  don't think how you think you should feel ... just feel what you need to .. and go with it ... it can creep up one day in a month , or years ... and it all comes out ... that's o.k .. it's normal ... but for now, know how much you missed her and will always ... as the saying goes ... go with the flow .. sending you a vertual hug...  Chrissie xx

Hi there ...

So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... loosing a parent , I think is the second hardest thing we have to go through ... you've only just lost your mum ... three months is nothing, it's still raw ...

We all think grieving is a certain way ... what we should or shouldn't do or feel ... where in reality it's different for every one .. I'd say go with how you feel .. give your heart permission to feel what ever comes into... and say that's o.k ... I felt very like you, and couldn't understand it ... but then I had a feeling she was still around , telling me she's o.k now ... l didn't feel the need to cry at her funeral ... couldn't understand it ... yet 2 years later cryed all through an uncle's funeral I wasn't close to .. then it hit me, I was crying for mum ... just 2 years on ... 

My mum was my best buddy to ... and over the years I've felt her close like finding feathers everywhere on having my breast cancer diagnosed ... nearly every day ... then when they said I had a contained cancer and small chance of spread ... the feathers stopped ..

Now if your mum's watching you, would she rather see you o.k or crying 24/7  ... I think you know .. and she's not left you, as you are half of her ... you carry her with you in your heart .... you just can't see her, but she's around ... like my mum ..

So be kind to yourself .. carry on ... if you ever want to cry , then cry ... or cuss ... or smile ... it's all just o.k ...  don't think how you think you should feel ... just feel what you need to .. and go with it ... it can creep up one day in a month , or years ... and it all comes out ... that's o.k .. it's normal ... but for now, know how much you missed her and will always ... as the saying goes ... go with the flow .. sending you a vertual hug...  Chrissie xx

Thank you so much, if I'm being honest being here makes me feel better because while I have siblings I'm not really close to them as being born last and a lot younger than the others we didn't go to school together as they had all grown up by the time i was born. I feel like here I can talk to people who have all been in the same situation.