My mum died from cancer 10 days ago

My mum died after only being diagnosed with cancer of the gall bladder 4 weeks prior and so it happened so quickly. It was my wedding anniversary the day that she died and we were all with her when she died at home. My husband was with me too and I found him crying afterwards saying that our anniversary was ruined forever and he brought it up again in the evening. I am struggling to forgive him for being the way he was and I know it is early days still but we were having issues in our marriage before mum was diagnosed and her diagnosis took over in my life. I miss my mum desperately and life will never be the same again.

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  • Hi Sophie1975

     

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your mum. Your post resonated with me as my late husband died on my sister's birthday and she said the same thing, she was annoyed that her birthday party had to be canceled.  My hurt feelings didn't last long as she did help me through what was a very rough time but she was right, her birthday has never been the same. My sister in law also made the same remark as her son's birthday was the same day too and she even tried to persuade the police to move the date of my husband's death. to the day before.

    People can say the most ridiculous things in times of great stress, but once its been said it cannot be unsaid and you're right life is never the same again but we all move on eventually and life, although different, does become more bearable. Take care x

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  • Hi Sophie1975

     

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your mum. Your post resonated with me as my late husband died on my sister's birthday and she said the same thing, she was annoyed that her birthday party had to be canceled.  My hurt feelings didn't last long as she did help me through what was a very rough time but she was right, her birthday has never been the same. My sister in law also made the same remark as her son's birthday was the same day too and she even tried to persuade the police to move the date of my husband's death. to the day before.

    People can say the most ridiculous things in times of great stress, but once its been said it cannot be unsaid and you're right life is never the same again but we all move on eventually and life, although different, does become more bearable. Take care x

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