Hi Sophie1975

I am so very sorry for the loss of your mum. Your post resonated with me as my late husband died on my sister's birthday and she said the same thing, she was annoyed that her birthday party had to be canceled.  My hurt feelings didn't last long as she did help me through what was a very rough time but she was right, her birthday has never been the same. My sister in law also made the same remark as her son's birthday was the same day too and she even tried to persuade the police to move the date of my husband's death. to the day before.

People can say the most ridiculous things in times of great stress, but once its been said it cannot be unsaid and you're right life is never the same again but we all move on eventually and life, although different, does become more bearable. Take care x

Hi Sophie, 

I am so sorry for your loss. It is my first time here and your post made me sign in just so I can drop you a line. 

My Mother was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and brain cancer as well just a couple of months ago and I am also having issues with my (ex) partner who refuses to move away although we have been living completely separate lives for almost 1 year... I can understand the pressure, stress and pain you have been and still are going through.

I am taking care of my Mother and since her diagnosis she has been living with me so I can look after her and she can spend as much time as possible with her grandkids.

I just wanted to send you my love and if you ever need to talk I am a good listener.

Thank you so much for your kind words, it means a lot. I know time will make it easier and I'm just taking one day at a time. I was so close to mum and I am struggling as it happened so quickly. I have 2 gorgeous children which helps to keep me strong. Xx

Thank you for taking the time to reply to me especially as you are going through so much as well.

I am so pleased you have your mum with you and that you are able to spend some precious time together. I know each day will get a little easier, it just blows my mind how quickly it happened and that I am never going to speak to her again. The 2 weeks before her death were incredibly hard as she didn't want any of my brothers and sisters (I am one of 7) to know how bad she was and I was the only one supporting her along with my stepdad. I had to tell them all in the end how serious it was which was one of the hardest things I had to do. Luckily we are all very close.

Hope you and your mum stay strong xx

Hi Sophie, 

I hope you are well. 

Thank you so much for your reply. Sending you all my love. 

Innez