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Losing your father, best friend and super hero.

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It has been over a year now since we lost my Dad to cancer. Things do not seem to be getting easier. Although the initial shock has gone, I still feel the very real pain of losing my best friend.

 

I know I need to accept that this is just the way life is going to be from now on. My life isn't going to be as good as it could have been. Every good day has a dark cloud.

 

Does anyone have any advice on how to come to terms with losing someone so close to you? I know there must be a way somehow, I am sick of feeling like this. And I know my Dad would be angry with me for feeling like this too.

 

Thank you all in advance.

 

 

 

 

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    I wish I had the answer for you, and for myself. 
     

    Our lives shattered 18 months ago when my fit, healthy dad died of oesophagus cancer at 58. Life is so so cruel. 
     

    I know somewhere along the line something has changed as I don't hysterically cry every day like the beginning, I guess that's the 'learn to live with it part'. 
    Life has passed me by, I gave birth to their first grandchild 2 weeks after he went to sleep, went ahead with my wedding that had been bought forward for him and my sister had her first baby who was in intensive care for 6 weeks all in the same year. 
     

    I think about him every single day, I miss him terribly and I just can't imagine a whole life without him. 
    Some childish part of me bargains with whoever it is up there that says who stays and goes that I will do absolutely anything to have him back. 
     

    I'm not religious at all, but I did see a medium and I truly believe he is here and we will see him again. 

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    I wish I had the answer for you, and for myself. 
     

    Our lives shattered 18 months ago when my fit, healthy dad died of oesophagus cancer at 58. Life is so so cruel. 
     

    I know somewhere along the line something has changed as I don't hysterically cry every day like the beginning, I guess that's the 'learn to live with it part'. 
    Life has passed me by, I gave birth to their first grandchild 2 weeks after he went to sleep, went ahead with my wedding that had been bought forward for him and my sister had her first baby who was in intensive care for 6 weeks all in the same year. 
     

    I think about him every single day, I miss him terribly and I just can't imagine a whole life without him. 
    Some childish part of me bargains with whoever it is up there that says who stays and goes that I will do absolutely anything to have him back. 
     

    I'm not religious at all, but I did see a medium and I truly believe he is here and we will see him again. 

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