For Chriss

So hard to find a way to express feelings and emotions but you Chriss amongst the devastating sadness also shone a tremendous beacon of light full of hope.   You have always given such hope and inspiration such empathy and understanding such sound valued advice.

So sorry for the loss of your grandaughter Jess.

Best wishes to your beautiful neice.

Best wishes to you with a virtual hug xx

For Chriss

So hard to find a way to express feelings and emotions but you Chriss amongst the devastating sadness also shone a tremendous beacon of light full of hope.   You have always given such hope and inspiration such empathy and understanding such sound valued advice.

So sorry for the loss of your grandaughter Jess.

Best wishes to your beautiful neice.

Best wishes to you with a virtual hug xx

Hi there Leigh... 

Firstly thank you ... but I had an amazing mum, who taught me to try to help, not only those I love but strangers too ... she is so missed by all my family 30 years on, and my son's still put pictures of her on their face book ... so when I lost her, I wanted to carry on what she'd taught me .. unconditional love ..

I've just looked back on your threads, and your words touched my heart ... I don't know how I missed them ..

How are you doing now ... if it's still gets overwhelming there's a little book with something that helps me ... when that pain is a 10 out of ten ... sit down , close your eyes, and think of the funniest time with your wonderfull hubby you can .. or the memory you treasure most ... relive it ... slowly .. word for word ... how he looked... how you felt ... in slow motion .. play it over and over till you feel the pain being replaced by a good feeling ... then see how many out of 10 it feels then ...

Families are funny things .. your right, we all grieve so differently .. kids are the best .. most seem to cry or sob , missing someone then 10 minutes later,  they play or do something completely different... if only adults could do that ... men grieve differently to us women ... 

There's a choice we have, to hold on and allow everyone to grieve in their own way , but hold each other's hands .. or go in different directions .. hopefully in time you'll all find your way back ..

Please know you've not lost him... he just walks a step behind ... he watches you as you sleep .. and I bet he trys to tell you, he's o.k ... he's just waiting as it's not your time yet ... he'll see those little ones .. it's like the air we breath .. we can't see it, or touch it .. but it's right there ... 

If you see feathers at some point , or a smell of remembering .. or just the feel he's around ... have faith ... he's right there in your heart .. think you've made him very proud when you reach out too ... so take care ... sending a vertual hug winging its way over .... Chrissie