Hello zingzin

Heartbreaking I am so sorry for your loss for all those you have lost I cannot comprehend what I am reading and what you are going through their are no words I can find to say.  I have just posted myself and now having read what you are going through I just feel so bad.  You have such courage to share what you are going through.  I'm so glad you have your beautiful grandparents from your mum's side.

Sending you heartfelt love and hugs.  Take care please.  I hope others on here can help. xx

Hi Zingzin,

I’m sorry to hear you have been through so much loss. It has only been two months since the accident so you do need to get some support. I don’t think a cancer forum is the right place for this so I would suggest you take a look at some of the helpful advice on the Young Minds website. On this site you’ll find a wealth of support options for younger people who are dealing with grief and the loss of someone close to them.

I hope you get the support you need.

With best wishes,

Ben
Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello zingzin,

                     it is such a hard thing you have had to face and there can be no easy answers or right/wrong way of how to go about doing so.

                                                                   People lose their family in difficult circumstances ,some grow apart and do not care for each other,leaving them with a feeling of worthlessness.Those like yourself lose greatly loved ones that are pulled away from you.They are the ones who would want the very,very best for you throughout your life,them not being here does not change that.

                                                                     This is what you take forward with you into your future,what you do each day is your very best.Somedays will be good,some bad,some success,some failiure,but just hold that thought that they all wanted the best life for you and go and make it happen.You are a special person to those who love you,go forward and make a special life for yourself and live it to the full,

                                take great care of yourself,

                                                                         David

Hey Zingzin,

No one will be able to fix or heal your pain but it can feel ever so slightly better to know you are normal.

It sounds like you have been through some extremely awful moments in your life, moments that are going to shape you forever. I lost my mum at 16 too, I had no dad or siblings (or any close relatives) to begin with so do know that feeling of being completely alone. And trust me when I say, all of those souls taken too soon are now your guardian angels and you will feel them with you wherever you go.

Please don't be upset with yourself for feeling everything you are feeling right now, cry as much as you need to cry, speak as much as you need to speak and try to go out into nature and talk to your family through the sky (or whatever works for you) as much as you can. 

I am sending you all the love I can offer. Be patient with yourself and with the universe and remember to be kind to youself, and love yourself as much as they would all want to love you right now.

Zingzin oh my dear I'm so sorry for your loss it is astoundingly and deeply painful it shook me to the core at such a young age to be so hurt and traumatized my dear it's just very hard. I can't imagine how you feel.

Please keep talking and try your best not to withdraw whoever it may be that you can share with it's important to have support during the days and nights ahead my dear. Your mom and dad and family would have wanted the very best for you, they were proud of who you are. I'm so glad your dad told you those things. There is hope and love all around you so please don't lose heart my dear.

We may be strangers here but we all know the pain of loss and we surround you with a circle of support, strength, concern and care my dear.

Sending big warm hugs