Yes, they have been good so far and hoping this will continue for a long time to come, as I think im going to need it.

I just had to say thank you for the advice you have given.

We have just been told my Mum has weeks/months to live and I’m absolutely devastated. Up until Friday we knew nothing.
we live and do everything together and have the best times and I can’t imagine what life will be like without her. I don’t have my own family through choice/it’s just not happened or sibblings and lost my dad when I was 20, so I will be left in our house all on my own. I do have family nearby and friends but it just won’t be the same. I don’t know what to do with myself. I hope I will be able to cope and your words have gone a little way to help.

My friend is in a similar position to yourself. She lives at home, & her brother who also lived at home passed away a few years ago. Her dad passed two weeks after mine, and when her mother goes she is on her own.   Take care. And again I am really sorry.

Thank you for your reply!! It is devastating, but I know I need to be strong for my mum and live a life she would want me to!! It’s just hard to see that when you are just so sad all the time!! It helps a little to know I am not the only one.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

All I can offer is a massive virtual hug and my best wishes.

God I feel exactly the same and it is killing me inside. 
my Dad has end of life renal failure sorry that’s the difference. I catch myself when I remember he’s actually leaving the world and the panic is such I can’t breathe. I am terrified. He’s my world. Please help me. 

I lost my Father 24th December 2023. He was without doubt the most incredible human , caring , loyal , generous and completely devoted to his family. Reading all these posts reinforces the thoughts I cannot shake on why the human race exsists Unless you are able  to truly believe in religion then all who are fortunate enough to know love will pay a massive price of having  that being ripped from you. We are the only species we are aware of that comprehend our mortality and distract ourselves from that by setting goals in life and perusing achievements which ultimately do little or nothing when you have to face the death of a loved one. Death is accepted as part of life , it's is viewed as inevitable. My pain through the loss of my Father is unbearable and I acknowledge that I am far from alone , in fact everyone who has known real love will ,or has , faced this. Why then do people have children knowing this inevitable outcome. My poor mother is suffering from the loss of her husband of 63 years , he never left her side for a day yet was incredibly successful and myself and my two sisters are, all , by any judgement very successful and happily married. I now , however question how anyone can claim a successful life when they will experience this pain as will their children and their children's children . There is a flaw in our design , we should not have the ability to love as we do and be aware of the inevitable conclusion. We can dedicate our life to helping others , improving the world , advancing humanity but is this not perpetuating the suffering. I have had many obstacles to overcome but built a life most would consider incredible yet what was the point. I can't find a point in anyone's life , at best some people enrich or prolong others life but does this not make the eventual death even worse. I wish I could believe in religion but it seems historically to be the route of so much evil and war and there are so many conflicting beliefs which cannot all be true. My pain right now is overbearing how can all the love , compassion , knowledge my Dad had just be gone , it lives on in me and my sister's but we will be gone as has everyone who has ever lived. Some are remembered but in reality no one has ever really changed the fact human life is seemingly flawed , the more you achieve fulfilment through love , hard work the more pain your passing will cause. No one really has any great love or guidance from previous generations , sure they might have fleeting memories of great grandparents and anecdotal knowledge beyond that but no real connection and certainly not the pain of loss. Reading all the comments and so many in genuine pain like me I need to understand why we are here  why do we persist in creating more humans to go through this. All other creatures have no concept of death so why do we and knowing that,  why do we persist. Perhaps it is my pain making me irrational but I think there has to be a reason we have the unique ability to understand mortality and perhaps the soul lives on and all the knowledge does not die with us. I cannot believe in religion as it is touted but I cannot accept nature has given us this ability to learn and be aware of our mortality for no reason. Perhaps I am going mad but I want to believe my incredible Father along with everyone else who lost loved ones are somewhere. I have no idea how that works , not sold on reincarnation but surely we amount to more than struggling for perhaps 100 years building knowledge , love only for it all to mean nothing , if thats true having children is in fact ultimately cruel as them having to ultimate oh watch you die is,  as I have found out completely unbearable , overshadowing any other achievement. I live in with the hope and belief I will see my Father again , perhaps not in the same context and perhaps we will discuss how difficult our time on earth was but as long as I  get to be with him again I can accept that life was not just a cruel event where the more you succeed in having love and being kind the more you loose.

I have just read your post and found it incredibly moving and my heart goes out to you ,you mention you wish you were religious ,obviously I would imagine because you would like to believe you would see your dad again one day ,I just want to say one thing really and that's people confuse God and Heaven with religion when in actual fact having a relationship with God has nothing to do with religion but most people think its the same thing ,it isn't ,I believe 100% that after death we will be in heaven and see our loved ones again ,God would not have given us our families to then just take them away never to be seen again ,its not how God speaks in the Bible ,He says I go to provide a place for you  that where I am you may be also ,if it were not true I would have told you so " people might say where's the proof but we walk by Faith not by sight ,if I didn't believe this I wouldn't be able to think of a reason to be on this earth , I bought a Bible it is God speaking to us through his word how amazing is that ,I honestly believe that you and your family will see your Father again its guaranteed and I will see my loved ones I have no doubts ,Best Wishes to you and your family 

What a beautiful message x