I have 2 very close friends who are husband and wife. They have been inseperable all their married life. They have never spent a day apart. The wife is dying but her husband is in a sort of denial. He SAYS that she has terminal cancer, he SAYS she is needing stronger drugs, he SAYS her oxygen levels are getting really low but now that the Palliative care team are getting involved he says he doesnt like them getting involved because it makes his wife's illness more real. So he hasn't really come to terms with the fact she actually IS dying.

I don't know what to say to him. He keeps saying he doesnt like the palliative care people because it makes her illness mote real. What can I say to him? I am actually getting quite uncomfortable in myself because how on earth he will cope on his own god only knows. Neither him nor his wife like people helping out and there is no way he would ever go to bereavement groups or have anyone come to talk about it. So what can i say that doesnt sound like Im trying to counsel him myself?!!