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16 months later: suddenly can't stop crying

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My partner died 16 months ago and I thought I was doing ok until about a month ago and suddenly I can't stop crying. My daughter and granddaughter live with me but I've never felt so lonely. Everyone thinks I'm coping but when I go to bed I just want to cry I can't sleep and I hate the silence. Everyone else seems to have moved on but I feel as though I can't. All the doctors want to do is give me tablets and in our area there are no groups that you can talk to. My daughter is very good but she copes with grief in her own way and she sometimes doesn't understand how bad I feel. I feel as though I'm a intruder in my own home . 

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    very sorry for your loss Dubberley.

    its good that youve a daughter and grand daughter to at least try stay strong for.but like Paul said losing your partner is a different loss to others.as they were your friend lover soulmate everything you need to help make you happy rolled into one person.i personally havent stopped crying over the loss of my partner.perhaps you stayed strong for your daughter and grand daughter and maybe theyve managed to cope better now and get on with their own lives.and now it as hit you the loss youve suffered.hopefully you can get bereavement couselling,cant say it help me totally but it was nice having some one to open up to about your feelings and what they meant to you.that did help get a few things off my chest,and hopefully it will help you a little.id try contacting your local hospital or hospice both probably offer conselling.and online ive heard of cruise bereavement and another called dove no doubt there are others and  your doctors surgery may have a list of beareavement services in your area ,good luck .

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    very sorry for your loss Dubberley.

    its good that youve a daughter and grand daughter to at least try stay strong for.but like Paul said losing your partner is a different loss to others.as they were your friend lover soulmate everything you need to help make you happy rolled into one person.i personally havent stopped crying over the loss of my partner.perhaps you stayed strong for your daughter and grand daughter and maybe theyve managed to cope better now and get on with their own lives.and now it as hit you the loss youve suffered.hopefully you can get bereavement couselling,cant say it help me totally but it was nice having some one to open up to about your feelings and what they meant to you.that did help get a few things off my chest,and hopefully it will help you a little.id try contacting your local hospital or hospice both probably offer conselling.and online ive heard of cruise bereavement and another called dove no doubt there are others and  your doctors surgery may have a list of beareavement services in your area ,good luck .

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