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16 months later: suddenly can't stop crying

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My partner died 16 months ago and I thought I was doing ok until about a month ago and suddenly I can't stop crying. My daughter and granddaughter live with me but I've never felt so lonely. Everyone thinks I'm coping but when I go to bed I just want to cry I can't sleep and I hate the silence. Everyone else seems to have moved on but I feel as though I can't. All the doctors want to do is give me tablets and in our area there are no groups that you can talk to. My daughter is very good but she copes with grief in her own way and she sometimes doesn't understand how bad I feel. I feel as though I'm a intruder in my own home . 

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    Hi i think maybe its delaid grief we try to be strong for othere but it just delays the grief . There will be a local hospice in your earea give them a ring they do counciling ive said to people the same that after a few months the world goes back to normal but we dont they try and change the ssubject or even ignore when you mention him i lost my partner a year last may and ive found that the thing is every week you go and chat to the same counciler and they are there to help you with your grief its a diffrent grief when you loose your partner to othere grief feels like somethings put a full stop on your life so keep talking to us we understand what its like until you go through it all the books in the world will not make people understan how you feel you have to stick at it thoe it hurts talking about it but talking gets the grief out .paul

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    Hi i think maybe its delaid grief we try to be strong for othere but it just delays the grief . There will be a local hospice in your earea give them a ring they do counciling ive said to people the same that after a few months the world goes back to normal but we dont they try and change the ssubject or even ignore when you mention him i lost my partner a year last may and ive found that the thing is every week you go and chat to the same counciler and they are there to help you with your grief its a diffrent grief when you loose your partner to othere grief feels like somethings put a full stop on your life so keep talking to us we understand what its like until you go through it all the books in the world will not make people understan how you feel you have to stick at it thoe it hurts talking about it but talking gets the grief out .paul

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