Hello Audconn

It sounds as if you've been through so much this year nad now to hear that Dad is facing more treatment I think it's understandable that your emotions are running high. 

Did you receive any bereavement counselling when Mum passed away. I'm presuming from your post that you didn't and I wonder if it might be helpful for you to talk to someone. If Mum had any hospice input it would be worth getting in touch with them to see if they have berevement services available. Alternatively you could get in touch with CRUSE to arrange to speak to someone. 

In the meantime be kind to yourself Audconn and I hope that you get the support you need. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator

O bless you goodness your all having a bad time i hope your dad pulls through this flipping rotton disease the oncolygists say weeks and people can live for years or vice versa pancreas is about worst we get aches and pains just think its age then bang its cancer . I had a prostrate biopsie not long ago ended up with sepsis it took my partner to but it was quick less than two days after her majore stroke caused by cancer i was releived that she would die paralysed in pain in probably a month if you ring your local hospice they have bereavment councilers they deal with death every day an hour a week may just keep you sane .griefs g very lonely road because no one else loved your mum more except your dad but you cant support him very well if your struggling with emotional exhaustion of caurse its your choise .but .ifound who looks after the carrer so see if you can get out for walks in the park just a walk away from it all will help i lost mum and dad some years ago but seems like yesterd since i lost my liz  only just over a year but i got vertualy no support and it took its toll on me so just you look after yourself to once again sorry we are all rooting for your dad you dont know us but your on here and we understand what your going through keep letting us know how its all going just chatting may stop you from self destructing your in this club that no one wants to be in but glad we are .best wishs you will be getting replys ime sure from people going throe or been throe and it helps knowing your not alone .paul

Dear Paul

thank you so much for taking the time to reply and your kind words.  I hope you are on the mend and I am so sorry to hear about your partner, it truly is a horrible disease.  Yes mum had the sneakiest one of all, was sad to watch the daily decline and the pain she was suffering and feeling totally helpless.  My emotions have been all over the place.  I have thought about counselling but that would be selfish as I have people I can turn to and talk to and maybe someone else needs them more than me. Dad starts his treatment on Friday so hoping he smashes it again X