Hi Fran

just wanted to give you my condolences for the loss of your mum. She sounds amazing. Grief can be overwhelming but if it does get too much then don’t hesitate to go see your GP for some advice. Do try and open up to others on how you’re feeling, perhaps they can’t relate but they can empathise and offer love and support - don’t close down, for the sake of your mental well being you need to talk about this.

take care x

Hi fran 

I am feeling exactly the same as you.

It's now 11 weeks today since my mum passed suddenly and my grief gets worse and worse.

I think this is normal. The longer we are away from then the more it hurts. I can only imagine that we will pass a turning point. I have come to accept that this isn't going to be soon.

With regards to the trauma I think you would benefit from CBT therapy. I'm on a waiting list for it and gave arranged through my GP 

I never discussed death either with mum and it wasnt even in my mind she could die. I have so many regrets too and just wish I  could have one more conversation with her.

Again I think we are completely normal with this and would have regrets even if there was nothing to regret!

I wake up every day praying for a better day, but each one just brings more sadness and emotions. I am hoping our brains are simply processing what has happened and this will help us come through as stronger individuals.

I would rather suffer the grief now than have it come to the surface in a few years time.

Take care. X

Hi, 

Thank you for your response, means a lot. Yea I don't feel to go GP at the moment as my sister went on behalf of us and she was pretty much told to get on with her life. I'll definitely try open up more with those closest to me and it has helped being on here actually. 

Thanks Again X

Oh right yea just about same amount of time for me. Yea I know, I've accepted this too now. I'll maybe look into that some time soon, thank you. 

You are absolutely right, I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking all these thoughts constantly. Thank you for reaching out and sharing your story, always means a lot to me. 

You take care too Xx

Hi you should go back and see another gp its not right them being like that especialy if you getting flashbacks we do get them it depends how its effecting your mentle health p.t.s.d can effect anyone and its litraly a nightmare happened to me .paul

Hi Fran

sorry to hear the GP was not supportive, don’t let this put you off from attending if you need a little help, there are bereavement counselling open to you from a number of sources, your NHS Trust, GP counselling services and MacMillan.

Love x