Hi there .. so so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... 

Well your not going to loose your wonderful dad ... just look at the photo you put on .. oh my ... your his double .. your half of him ... just keep him in your heart safe ... and take him along your life's journey .. he'll see through your eyes ... look in the mirror and he'll be looking right back ..

It's the second hardest thing we do in life for me .. the only pain greater is loosing a child ...  l lost my wonderful mum in my 30s .. but when we have amazing parents .. wer lucky that we can take those lessons they taught us , through our life ... my kids still put pictures of her on their face book 30 years on ..  we just took mum along ... and when they go .. the best thing we can do for them is make them proud and picture them and think what they'd say ... we were blessed to have had them in our lives ... 

Sending you a vertual hug... take every minute you have as a chance to tell him how much he meant ..

Chrissie xx

Hi Matt

I am so sorry you are going through this heart ache and unfortunately I cannot answer your question as to if it gets easier but what does come through is the true love you have for him. In the time you have, just let that be your number one focus, discuss the happy times, the memories you cant forget and the ones you wish you could. Laugh cry and smile together. I hear people say that a piece of their parents will always live on in them and I do desperately hope this is true. I fear this is just around the corner for my mum and dad and at only 27 myself I cant help feel jealousy when I see people aged 60+ with their wonderful parents and how life can just be so unfair. Sometimes I guess people are just too special to be in this world for a very long time. Your dad must be in that club :) wishing you and your family all hugs and a ear incase you ever want to chat and to your dad, that he remains out of pain and enjoys his time with you all. 

Laura x 

Hi matt,

It isn't fair and the next few days and weeks will be very hard for you.

However you WILL cope.

I am 48 and my mum died 7 weeks ago today. I am struggling but I am coping albeit very slowly and with great difficulty.

My dad died suddenly of a heart attack when I was 27. It was an awful time but I did get through it. At the time you don't think you will cope but the human body is so resilient and manages to cope with extreme grief.

You will never get over losing your dad but things do eventyally get better and I know that in time I will cope better about my mum than I am currently doing.

In the meantime be there for your dad and know that, when the time comes you will get through it.

I'm in the same position. I just keep thinking back to when mum was well playing with her little boy. I keep looking up life after death and spirits as the thought of not seeing her again kills me. I feel your pain. It's indescribable. Caring for mum at home and spent a lovely 5 weeks with her but don't want her to go. 

Hi Matt, 

You will cope, I don’t know how we do, but we do.

i lost my dad 58 in March, I’m 32. You’re right, it’s so unfair to lose a parent at such a young age and I feel so jealous sometimes that my friends have theirs, I feel sad for my mum that her friends still have their partners and this is our world now: 

It is undoubtedly the hardest thing to lose one of the closest people to you in the world, I don’t think we ever accept or come to terms with it, but day by day that pain becomes different. For me it has only been 4.5 months and I still think about him every second, but that hysterical crying has stopped. 

You will get through this, spend every second you can with him it’s the most precious time x

Hi Matt,

I really am so very sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my own amazing Dad seven weeks ago tomorrow to Stage 4 lung cancer.... he was such a wonderful person with a heart as big as the ocean and, like your dad, a devoted Christian. He never smoke or drank and did everything that he could to help everybody. I was incredibly close to him and I miss him terribly. I am only 31 and have two young children who miss their precious Grandy more than words can say.

I went through a similar situation to what you aren’t going through now. Dad was diagnosed just five and a half months before he died and things went from bad to worse quite quickly. I was so frightened when the end of his life was nearing and there were times where I didn’t think I could live without him. You will get through this. I absolutely promise you. He will live on through you just as my dad lives on through my boys and through me. Somebody who has influenced your life in such an incredible way will not just disappear and something from somewhere will spur you on to get up each morning and live your life in the way that your dad would want you to. You have got this. I promise :-)

Before my dad went into an induced coma, he looked at me in the eyes and told me to embrace each and every moment, just as he had done. He was only 59 and prior to his diagnosis he was as fit as a fiddle. I am sure that your dad wants you to live the most amazing life in his memory. It is so hard but you will find the strength.

Make every moment count and, if you aren’t able to, tell your dad just how much you love him. Your bond will never, ever be broken because love really does last forever (wise words from my dad who was my best friend and hero).

Claire

Hi Claire, 

Firstly I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your reply. We'll, thankyou to everyone for their replies.. All have been a massive help and a comfort to read, but I'll reply to this one as yours was the latest reply. 

I'm sorry you had to go through what I'm going through, our stories sound very similar. My dad now, unfortunately, is just days away. He's in our local hospice, as was his wish, and I really don't think he will see the weekend through. I've just got home having been there since 8am this morning and I've just burst in to tears fearing that may well be the last time I saw him. I gave him a big kiss on his forehead as he lay sleeping, told him I loved him and said good night. I've said a prayer hoping God doesn't take him tonight but take him when I am by his side. Hopefully on this occasion he grants that prayer.

I know you've told me your story, and as I said I believe they are similar, I just hope you're right in saying that I will get through this. At this moment in time I really cannot imagine my life without him. We're a big family of 23, and my dad is the rock of the family. We have family gatherings every Easter, Christmas Eve and Boxing Day, plus the special occasions like weddings and birthdays... How do I cope without him being there? I'm frightened I may turn against my family by declining to attend events simply because I'll be frightened of how ill cope! At this moment I truly am heartbroken, and believe me, I'm not an emotional person and usual bottle it all up, this however is just tearing me apart!

Again, thankyou for your reply, thank all of you for your replies and thankyou for sharing your stories. They really have helped. God Bless!! 

Hi mat sorry your going through this you will cope you will find the strength and it will have come from your dad thats how it works .but to say its agony is an unerstatment by coming on here sharing your showing your strengh as ime sure your dad would want theres no such thing as fairness with this rotton disease just take it minute say all the things you need to now as a dad myself to be told by our kids they love us is the best gift and a thanks for making you the man you are its like contrition in a way realy helps later i did with mum and after did it help me cope just hold on you can do it best wishs to you your dad and family .paul