I think it is pretty normal Sammy123456, you are grief stricken and 7 weeks ago is still relatively early.
Your concentration goes, you have no interest in anything whether it be family, friends or work, you are disorganised, nothing seems enjoyable any more but things do get better, You don't bounce back from such an enormous event like nothing ever happened, it all takes time but it may be worth speaking to your GP and possibly be referred for grief counselling or even some pills to just take the edge off. They don't work immedietly but take at least a few weeks to get into your system then the dosage be altered, they don't have to be long term but it may help you to get past the worst of it until you feel ready enough to do it on your own.
Be kind to yourself and don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you do, it's normal.
Hi sammy in way you are . But!!! In a normal way many will tell you that i i went totaly bonkers when i lost my partner it will be going round and round in your head you get no piece .but this is the big but it dosnt stay this way forever if its so bad and your not sleeping or the opposite make an apointment a double one i have to say a young dr if you can they can give you something to help you get through this its not a madgic bullet but why suffer more than you have to i dont know if you have arranged counciling that can help to .and one other thing i used was the samaritans as late at night it got me more because my partner wasnt there a few minutes chat seemed to calme my nerves . Times a healer thats a fact but not on its own its what you do with that time going out talking being on your own to. it all helps the time your realy emotionaly exhausted and need to heal but your normal dont overthink it the pain does dwindle and these horrid memories change to fond ones but sorry to say its slow lonely road but your just doing ok best wishs .paul ps 7 weeks is so early you will be so raw but it wears off hold onto that thought i will not feel this way forever it gets eisier
Went to see my GP last week and got signed off from work. Rushed back as I was worried about what people would think and also thought the routine would help. But it back fired badly.
I have a history of not processing my emotions and therefore decided early on to see a counsellor as my Dad and I had a very complicated and difficult relationship. Have seen my counsellor 4 times now so early on in terms of processing the past and coming to terms with wheat has happened and the hole it has left in my life/family.
I do feel it is doing me well but at the same time it’s jard to look back and process such a range of emotions when you cannot speak to the other person involved anymore.
Good sounds like you had a difficult time you can tell us no one knows who you are on here so if said you were from mars mo one could disput it .does it involve guilt my ex wifes father was horrible but he was her dad he had favourites and my wife thought if she could be this and that he would love her more etc etc it goes on and when the father passes away the daughter or son is lost ive ive it excuse me if ime wrong .but nothing you did is at foult .if you get it out whatever it is it may help more than you know .paul
Firstly, the feelings you have written about are 100% normally in every way, often after someone dies, people are filled with life changing wisdom, the fact is as I found out, nobodies grief is the same, even in my own family, my dad died in 2014, my sister has never come to terms with dad dying, she doesn’t like to walk about it nor really like anyone else talking about it, but that’s 100% fine with me, I am a more open person with feelings, I felt very bitter and angry for several months after dad died, I was looking for reasons as to why his cancer wasn’t picked up early enough, and just not functioning well at all, over the months it did change, I was able to process what had happened, and for me understanding that I wasn’t actually going to see him again. As others have said, it doesn’t get better, and you certainly don’t move on, however you learn to live with it, the not so nice memories seem to creep away and you then remember more and more the good things.
I don’t think you should beat yourself up about it, and really you are doing the right thing also, in talking about it, sometimes you never know a likely source of support can come from the most unlikely person, I had a women at work who I never got on with and actually avoided at every cost, she asked me about dad after his death and I just felt I was able to talk to her about it as she was a bit removed, and wasn’t a professional; I wouldn’t say we are best friends, however she really did listen and had actually had a similar experience with her own dad, so you never know. Take care of yourself, and stop worrying.
